SAHM struggling

[Newname123455]

I’m a sahm to a 20month old and am 30 weeks pregnant with baby no.2 and I am struggling to cope.
every day is the same , partner gets up to go to work at 5/6am and is home 6/7pm and then has to feed the farm animals and by then it’s 9pm or later.
im on my own all day , my own mother comes over maybe for a hour or so and just plays with my toddler bearly speaks to me.
i have no friends to talk too and have awful driving anxiety:(
I never have any time to myself only time i have to shower is on a Sunday when my partner is off.
i didn’t think it would be like this

Late pregnancy and a toddler is very trying before you even get to the level of isolation that you are describing, op. I'm not sure what to suggest. Is you driving anxiety something you could get help for, online if you are effectively grounded?

Are there any local parent/ baby groups you can walk to? If you're not sure, your midwife will be able to signpost you, or you could ask on your local town community Facebook page if there is one. This would break up your day a bit and the facilitators of groups are usually very good at playing with your kids to give you the chance to have a cuppa/chat to other parents. Congratulations on your pregnancy by the way! You're doing great, it's all going to be okay x

@Upstartled its something I’ve been struggling with for years only managed to actually pass my test last year and I have not drove once since that and it’s actually embarrassing at this point I’m almost 30 😢

@FTM1993 nearest baby and toddler group is a 20 minute drive no buses near me unfortunately. Thank you 🩵

the loneliness is a killer 🥺 my lo is starting to talk now and I am so looking forward to being able to have little chats with them 🥺

I never found baby and toddler groups that helpful to be honest. I constantly felt judged and like everything was a competition and basically like a total outsider to all the existing groups of friends. And the chat is so DULL. Always small talk and talk about the babies (fitting at baby groups, obviously!) but I was craving someone to just talk to me like an adult human being who had a life before children. Even if it was about some crap TV show or something going on on the news.

Going back to work part time really did help me in the respect of speaking to other adults not related to me about anything and everything people talk about at work.

You obviously have another on the way soon so that isn’t an option, but maybe consider putting your toddler into nursery a day a week if you can afford it. Just to give you some kind of break to do something totally for yourself and to meet new friends. Let’s be clear, that’s not a day to go and do the grocery shopping or housework, it’s a day to go and do some new activity or hobby, just something for yourself where you can meet new people. When the new baby is here, maybe that hour or two your mum comes round she can watch the baby and you can go to the gym or yoga or some other club.