Child teacher relationship breakdown WWYD

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Help needed. My 8 year old loved school and is the eldest in the class. Always tried his best enjoyed going, wanted to take gifts in for his teacher etc. This year he had a new teacher as always who is known for being slightly sarcastic not as nurturing. He was fine first couple of weeks then started saying he didn't want to go to school. On parents evening she could tell us nothing about him apart from he rushed to finish math's as he was bright and didn't like writing. Was clear there was a clash of personality. She's phoned home and told us he's been badly behaved and when we contacted school it turned out he hadn't. She ignores him when he puts his hand up even to the point that he nearly wet himself yesterday. She ignores him when he says good morning. His confidence is shot. He's crying every morning going in to school. There have been other things that are outing so can't say too much but wwyd? I'm a teacher myself so understand it could be perception but he's my baby

This sounds really tricky and upsetting. Have you tried talking to his teacher maybe from the perspective of “ he seems to think you don’t like him, or is there something we don’t know about?”

Is he quite sensitive? If he was Y6 I’d say maybe good preparation for secondary where he will no doubt encounter a wider range of teacher personalities including sarcasm. Not nice that he doesn’t want to go to school though.
Does the teacher greet each pupil individually?

It can be harder when you teach, in lots of ways. I once had to complain about my child’s teacher. Another parent had said “ you just accept it’s a coasting year”

DD was very able and not being challenged at all. I had to address it as she was being made to put her finger under every word, despite reading fluently, and lots of colouring in for Maths ( time filler) which she hated. No differentiation at all.
In response the head introduced a gifted and talented group in class led by the deputy. This was years ago and there wouldn’t be money in the school budget now.
Hope you manage to sort this.

Very difficult for you and your son. Perhaps arrange another meeting with the teacher by email copy the head in, you need to get to the bottom of this asap it is telling he always liked school before. I am a sarcastic teacher but fortunately teach 16+ but I don't think many young children get it. Perhaps because he is bright she finds him a challenge ( he may be beyond her capability in maths) .Good luck.

We've tried speaking to her before and she denied any issue and was unhelpful

Is there more than one class per year? If so, could you raise the ongoing issues with the head and request your child is moved to the other class?