Choosing last name for baby, anxiety...

[MonkeyTales]

I am feeling some anxiety about naming our baby, me and my partner aren't married. His last name just sounds better than mine so we decided on it. But all my family is in a different country and I am not close to them, but now I am the only one who doesn't share a last name here and it makes me a little sad. His siblings married their partners and all have the same last name. Essentially out of the big extended family I am the only odd one out. We been together for a long time and maybe I had expected him to ask me to marry him at some point but I also don't want to push him to do something he doesn't want.

Maybe it's just my hormones but I feel left out about my baby not having my name.. anyone felt the same? Did it pass? Do you regret not giving them your name?

Definitely double barrel the surnames! I am so pleased we did. Together but not married yet, and just makes travelling, etc easier.

Slighty different viewpoint, I’m married, didn’t change my surname and my children have my husbands surname. Doesn’t bother me one little bit, my oldest is 8 years old and she’s also fine with it.

Having a different surname to my two girls has not made anything more difficult as others have suggested it could. Not ever, not even travelling abroad without their dad. Appointments, school, you name it….NEVER been problem. There are some unhinged comments on this thread 😆

That’s not really it though, is it? He doesn’t want to marry her

my dcs have their dad’s surname as we were married, I’ve gone back to my maiden name and it’s fine, but a different scenario.

If I were not married I’d give my dc my name

If I were not married I’d give my dc my name
This.

This you can change it once you are married.

You feel left out because you are left out.

It would be a completely different situation if you were married.

I hope you are not financially dependent on your partner.

Your surname, definitely, or you'll face a good few years of having to take their birth certificate through airports just to prove you're their mother, when the father could walk through no questions asked.

This is the same as me. Kept my own name when I married but my son has his dad's name. It was important for my husband to have the same surname but for me, wasn't something I was remotely bothered about. Our surnames would have also sounded ridiculous double barrelled.

It's not ever something I think about him having a different surname. It's never caused any issues. I'm his mum, he calls me "mummy" and that to me is the most important thing.

Your name 100% and get a civil partnership at least before baby comes.

But she's saying it does bother her. Great that you are happy with your decision, seems like OP wouldn't be happy doing the same. And that's ok.