Potty training

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DS is 3yrs and 3months I have been trying to potty/toilet train him for about 6/12 but he just can't get it. My DD was potty trained by the time she was 2.5. All his age mates I know are all toilet trained. The childminder suggests to just leave him until he's ready. when will that be? I feel for him and I don't want to him to start school nursery in September in pull ups and the school did say that this isn't allowed. He will be nearly 4 then. How can I help my boy?

When you say he's not getting it, what do you mean? Frequent accidents with seemingly no awareness that he's going to wee? Or awareness of needing a wee, but reluctance to use the potty so ends up having an accident? Is he happy to be without a nappy, or does it bother him? Is he upset by having accidents?

What does he wear now? Nappy? Pants or Pull-ups?

I had one that didn't potty train until this age but they do have some communication issues which are pretty hard for most people to spot.

How does he score on these two:

42 month Ages & Stages

& the 3 year Social & Emotional Ages & Stages?

@JoyousEagle there's no awareness of wanting to wee.

@TinyMouseTheatre he wears pull ups only because I have tried to put pants on him he just wets himself then I stop for about a month to try again the same happens.

It's just my opinion but I think pull-ups really mess up the potty training process. I'd move back to nappies and so the two questionnaires that I linked to

@TinyMouseTheatre je does not have communication issues. He will say that am wet but never says I need a wee/poo. He will say that he has pooed and removes the pull ups but never beforehand

Meant he not je

If he can't feel that he needs to wee then work on just sitting him on the potty/toilet regularly so he starts to make the connection.

Leave him bare bummed (at home, obviously), give him lots to drink and sit him on the potty every 20 minutes or so. Look out for signs that he needs to wee and sit him on the potty. Get a few success under your belt and he will hopefully start to make the connection.

If you think he needs to poo, then getting them to blow bubbles/blow bubbles with a straw in water can help them 'let go'.

I'd have a go without pull ups. Just bare bottom at home, frequent sits on the potty, and see how it goes

Thanks for all replies

What have you tried so far and for how long? I do think pull ups confuse the process and imply it’s optional so I would personally keep them only for bed. Apologies if you’d tried something like this already but I would go back to basics:
Pump him full of liquid and insist on regular potty tries. Eventually he’ll have a success as it’s just timing then he’ll hopefully start to make the connection. Giving a small reward like a smartie helps too. Put him in pants so he can feel what it’s like to have an accident and learn it’s uncomfortable. Have him participate in clean up- he has to get undressed, take his wet clothes to the laundry and get clean ones so he realises that it’s quicker to use the potty. Clear at least 3 days, ideally closer to a week but I know that might be unrealistic with life and an older DC, to stay home and do nothing else.

^This is excellent advice.

Thank you.

'I'd have a go without pull ups. Just bare bottom at home, frequent sits on the potty, and see how it goes'
This is working already while in the house with no pants he has started to feel the urge to go on the potty already successfully. Thanks

Hi

I wanted to ask whether he had any accidents without anything on?
My son has had exactly the sams journey as yours and I've just taken his nappy off.

Just wondering if I should be expecting accidents