8 month old cries at anyone except me or her dad!

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Hi, my 8 month old cries at everyone, including grandparents or any other family. She has done it since being about 4 months old. She is fine with me or her dad but gets upset when with anyone else. It’s getting to the point where it makes me anxious seeing people, because as soon as they come in, they do things like hold their hands out to my daughter and say “are you coming” (same if we go to their house) which makes me feel like I have to hand her over, even though I know for a fact she is going to hate it and cry, so I do it, then it’s like I am supposed to just sit and watch while they try and comfort my daughter. I give her a minute or so, but there’s only so long I can take it. Opinions on this please! Thank you

My grand-daughter did the same, and I had so much love for her. A huge change was when she went to nursery, albeit a bit older at 12 months. It was complete agony for her mum and dad as she would cry almost inconsolably when they left / handover etc. but be told she's had a "good day" 2 weeks in, she was pleased to see others, she is now a different baby altogether, and plays happily with toys and so on, is sociable to others, both other children and adults, and I am at last delighted that when she has had enough she looks to me to pick her up and comfort her. 8 months is still young, but believe me when I say you have to push on and give it a go with others, they do change with the right environment in time - Hope this helps xx

Just be honest. I know it's awkward especially with your own parents but babies just do baby things. Mine even cried at their dad 😂 now is peak time for separation anxiety- just use that excuse if it makes you feel better!

Completely normal and healthy. It’s stranger anxiety. It’s a normal developmental phase (usually 7-12 ish months) in all babies with a healthy attachment. Best thing you can do is to keep her with you and comfort her. You’re teaching her about how the world works and how she can feel safe and secure. In a few months, it won’t happen anymore and she’ll happily go to familiar people.

Completely normal. You just need to tell people!

I wouldn't be handing her over or not taking her back when she's upset.