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In the trenches

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oustedbymymate · 02/03/2025 20:03

I'll prefix this by saying of course I love my children and wouldn't change it for the world. But right now I feel like we're just in the trenches.

Two boys 5 and 2.5. Wonderful funny little boys. However also completely full on. The oldest is starting with a bit of an attitude and there's drama most days. We challenge him on it every time and most days there's some sort of back chat and battle. Does well at school and they don't see it so I suppose that's a good thing. Bedtimes still a bit of an issues but it's the complete lack of listening. I have to ask four and five times for anything to happen and it drives me potty. He also likes to 'correct' me on things he can't possibly know. For example why I haven't parked in c space (wasn't big enough) and proceeded to tell me he thinks it it. This is just a small example but there are three to four of these types daily.

The youngest is wild. He never walked. He went from crawling to running at 12 months. He is absolutely full on energy bounces everywhere. Really sweet but completely full on too. Zero listening skills and can be very rough in his play. Again we challenge on it every time.

Both repeatedly want us all the time. They can't just seem to play for ten minutes without wrestling and fighting. Or just destroying things or emptying things out then not actually playing with them.

My DH is hands on and great we parent as evenly as possible. We both work full time and have zero additional support for various reasons.

Youngest goes to nursery where they say he is 'full of beans' which I'm worried is code words for naughty. Oldest is in first year of school and doing well.

I just feel like each day is a slog. Same shit different day.

On weekends we do like to get out as a family park days out etc but it's just so chaotic. It takes us 1.5 hours just to leave the house for day.

I guess I don't really want anything from tbis. Just to say I know I'm supposed to 'cherish every moment' and all that bollocks but when you've just broke up the 5th arguments of the day by 8am it's hard to cherish it.

I'm sure it's going to get easier (it's got to) but right now we're in the trenches

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Broccoli456 · 02/03/2025 20:08

As a mum of multiple boys that sound similar to yours, I signed mine up for almost every sport / activity going. Concentrated on being outside as much as possible with them. Mine are a bit older now, but I find having their friends over / meeting up with friends also makes life easier.

Broccoli456 · 02/03/2025 20:09

As a mum of multiple boys that sound similar to yours, I signed mine up for almost every sport / activity going. Concentrated on being outside as much as possible with them. Mine are a bit older now, but I find having their friends over / meeting up with friends also makes life easier.

oustedbymymate · 02/03/2025 20:15

Yes we already do swimming lessons for oldest and both do football on Sundays.

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