I am struggling co parenting with my ex. When we have an argument or disagreement, he brings up contact to upset me and "win" the argument. Currently he sees our son who is 2 and 3 months, 3 times a week - Sat 9am overnight till Sun 9am, then Mon 5-7pm (takes him to a café for dinner as he lives 30 mins away), and then Wed 5-7pm (at my flat while I'm at work).
To be clear, I want to facilitate more time going forward as our son gets older. My understand is that my ex doesn't want 50/50.
However, since the disagreement, he has ignored my suggestions to discuss more contact - he said he wants to take our son overnight on the Wednesday. I am open to working towards this in about 6 months as he has only just recently started the first overnight. I have also suggested mediation but he says mediation "didn't work", even though that's where we made our previous agreements 6 months ago and he appeared happy with them.
I am not keen on the café visit into the future, particularly when our son drops his nap as he already comes back overwrought some nights as it is very near to his bedtime. My ex dismisses this and has even asked for video evidence that he is overtired.
I am also keen that we don't get into an alternate day situation as I think that would be deeply unsettling for our son. We did alternate days at Christmas over 2 weeks and our son was very confused - my ex dismissed my concerns and said he was fine. I would also like to start alternate weekends some time this year as my understanding is kids do better with chunks of time with each parent.
Anyway, my issue is that my ex is completely ignoring my attempts to discuss and no longer seems bothered by the overnight but I would like to sort out changes for the relatively near future. He also says we are "parallel parenting" so he doesn't have to discuss anything. Has anyone got any advice?
I spoke to a solicitor who said just stop the Monday contact if it becomes an increasing problem but I worry that would put us on to a fast-track to court and seems very confrontational. I am also not seeking to reduce my ex's time with our son and that's how it would look.
Thank you if you've read this far.