We live in an ok-ish place with not too much crime but obviously have the typical groups of drugs and wanna be gangsters within the town. My 13 year old has been going off the rails for the past year and I’ve just had enough of him just carrying on with his anti social behaviour despite all of the talks, discipline and punishments he’s had. I’ve tried speaking to him so many times now I’m sorry it just doesn’t work. He’s been vaping so he’s grounded at the moment. Just as I let go of restrictions a little and he has a wonder out on his scooter I recieve a text by a friend saying that they’ve seen him vaping. He’s not addicted. He’s with the wrong crowd and his father’s side isn’t the best influence - not working no rules. I’ve also had messages from parents about his behaviour towards their children sending threats over text. I am nothing like this and I think this is a lot to do with the influence of having no parenting at his father’s house every weekend for the last 13years. What can I do that will actually make a difference? I’ve applied for him to move school because I know it’ll be difficult for him to make a new friendship group where he is now. He’s not allowed his phone and not staying at his father’s for the forseeable future. I am desperate.