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3 months old sleeps well at night but hysterical before naps

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sunheart123 · 24/02/2025 12:52

My 3-month old son has always been quite an easy baby, easy to soothe and easy to get off to sleep. He's sleeping well at night, with at least one good 5-hour stretch. At night I can usually just put him down in his cot after feeding and he'll go right to sleep. On that front we are very lucky!

In the past few days he's been fighting sleep before naps, becoming overtired and crying hysterically. Everything that usually gets him off to sleep pretty quickly - holding him and bouncing, swaying, squats, shushing, etc. just isn't working anymore. I'm making sure to watch closely for sleepy cues and at the first sign of a yawn or eye-rubbing I start trying to get him to sleep, but it seems he goes from wide awake to overtired instantly. Eventually after anything from half an hour to over an hour of crying he'll fall asleep and stay asleep for 2+ hours. Of course I have made sure that all the usual suspects are covered - nappy, hunger etc., it's definitely tiredness but he's fighting sleep so hard. He contact naps on me during the day because I want to avoid head flattening from too much time on his back.

Could it be teething? He's biting on his hand and drooling a lot, but I don't understand why that would only cause crying when he's tired, because he's perfectly happy and smiley during his wake windows. I've tried shortening his wake windows too, but until he starts showing sleepy cues he's just not tired enough to sleep, and the suddenly, bam, overtired and screaming.

Any insights please?

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OtterMummy2024 · 24/02/2025 13:47

I can offer solidarity, my baby became a nap fighter around this age. It's very annoying if they stop feeding to sleep! For me, giving a dummy helped. Also putting the baby on a firm cushion on my lap, stroking their nose (encourage eyes to close) and hold their hands still. But I think it's very baby dependent.

Babies change constantly, this phase will be different again in a month's time, and then you have to find a new thing that works! Enjoy the contact naps, at nine months they are - for me - a rare occurrence and I miss them more than I thought I would.

sunheart123 · 25/02/2025 13:03

OtterMummy2024 · 24/02/2025 13:47

I can offer solidarity, my baby became a nap fighter around this age. It's very annoying if they stop feeding to sleep! For me, giving a dummy helped. Also putting the baby on a firm cushion on my lap, stroking their nose (encourage eyes to close) and hold their hands still. But I think it's very baby dependent.

Babies change constantly, this phase will be different again in a month's time, and then you have to find a new thing that works! Enjoy the contact naps, at nine months they are - for me - a rare occurrence and I miss them more than I thought I would.

Thanks very much for the advice! The nose stroking works at night, but probably because he's already very sleepy. In the day it just seems to annoy him 😅 I exclusively pump as he has a tongue tie that didn't improve after being snipped, so I can't offer the boob without a lot of pain unfortunately! Yes, loving the contact naps! It means I don't get much done though!

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SecretSloth99 · 03/03/2025 16:08

My baby (3.5 months) often does this and I’ve done a lottttt of work to try and find her wake windows - I find I have to start trying to settle her about 10 minutes before nap time. I’ve been using huckleberry, so she has wake windows between naps of 1.25 hours after waking, then 1.5 hours, 1.75 hours, 1.75 hours and 2 hours and then I use sleepy cues to fine tune that on a daily basis.

I also stick to one single method of getting her to sleep, rather than doing more and more as she gets more hysterical.

its been about a week of doing this and now the hysterical crying is only a minute or two before she calms when I’m patting and shaking and then she falls asleep within about 10 minutes of patting and shushing.

have a read of the CALM approach to baby sleep book, we did the free sleep workshops Hannah ran recently and it’s made a world of difference and now following the book!

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