How much formula for 10 month old?

[HeartyBlueReader]

My daughter turns 10 months old tomorrow. She has had her health visitor review today. She is currently on 8oz 4x a day (she doesnt actually drink the full 8oz really, she will usually drink 5-7oz depending on how she is feeling - but may drink just over the 7oz - my mum has always advised me to put more in for them occasions shes hungrier - I am FTM) ..

Anyway, she struggles with solids, doesnt always eat a lot of it, might drop it, might refuse it or just play with it

I voiced my concerns today with the health visitor, about that and about how she gags and can be sick because of the gaggings and me being uncertain whether the gagging is from the cough she has had for weeks or if it is something else and the uncertainty of whether the lack of eating is due to how much milk she is drinking or whether there is more to it

Shes advised me to drop the 11am & 3pm bottle, so basically to just have a morning/nighttime bottle & let her drink water with her lunchtime meal.

I just want to know has anybody else done that with their 10 month old? Im not planning on just dropping both the bottles at the same time, I am planning on reducing the amount to 4oz for the next few days, dropping 1 next week week then the other a few days or a week after.

Has anybody else had issues with gagging/being sick? Or any issues with how much solids their 10month (or older or younger) eats and has any advice?

Everyone told me weaning was fun but I have honestly found it so stressful, scary and hard🙈

No advice sorry but this facebook group is really helpful and I’m sure will be able to advise https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1BNzuqNZ2K/?mibextid=wwXIfr

My daughter is 10 months old (just) and she has:

Breakfast
Morning bottle
Lunch
Snack
Evening meal
Bed time bottle

Sometimes extra snacks if hungry, things like a yoghurt instead of a bottle in the afternoon.

Sometimes she clears her plate and sometimes she picks at it and throws some on the floor, but mostly she’s pretty good now! She did used to gag a lot but it’s a totally normal part of them learning how to eat, just make sure everything is prepared correctly and safely for their age and encourage them to crack on! I found my daughter gagged a lot more when I was trying to feed her from a spoon, once she was feeding herself she was able to realise herself how much was too much x

My baby is slightly younger, we are now down to

7.30 breakfast
9am 5oz
12 lunch
3pm 5oz
5.30 dinner
6.45 6oz

We dropped a fourth bottle (11am) recently because even with a late lunch, LO wasn't hungry for solids.

But we are lucky that LO loves food!

Have a look at YouTube videos for baby lead weaning. Even if you don't do baby lead weaning it helps you understand why babies gag when eating. They aren't actually choking as choking is silent. They have gag reflexes that are more sensitive than adults but that is the way they learn to eat. It will put your mind at ease about giving your child food. 4 bottles of milk at 10 months is too much. I used to give them food first and let them eat as much as they want then top up with milk just incase they were hungry, but you have to be careful with that too as kids are clever and know they will get the bottle regardless so won't eat as much.

@Mrsttcno1 Thank you so much! Any advice with feeding herself? Do you give her a spoon etc or just use her hands? Shes pretty good with solids but anything messy etc i tend to feed her with a spoon because otherwise she just plays with it and it ends up on the floor and everywhere else but I think I have made her rely on me too much now but she can also refuse the spoon a lot unless its porrdige, yoghurt or cheesy pasta she will very rarely take anything else🙈 thank you so much again xx

I personally didn't let my son feed himself unless it was finger foods as it was easier for me but he also went to nursery 3 days a week and he fed himself there copying other kids so they could deal with the mess 😂. I think I would have put more effort in him feeding himself if he didn't go to nursery!

No worries @HeartyBlueReader ! I’ve always encouraged her to have a try herself, so I pop her meal on her plate and just let her dig in really! When we first started we definitely used to lose half the meal to the floor/walls but with practice and learning she’s gotten a lot better (although definitely still has her moments!), I just used to offer bigger servings knowing some of it would be on the floor, it’s a totally normal development stage! I also sit with her and eat with her for all of her meals so she’s watching me and learning that way, copying me which I do think helps her too!

For messy things I offer some on a plate for her to have a go at and then offer some on a pre-loaded spoon, rather than putting the spoon into her mouth myself I load the spoon up and pass it to her so she puts it in her mouth herself. I used to then keep pre-loading the spoon but now she’s pretty good at doing that bit herself (it’s messy, but she’s getting there😂). I found the best spoons for this were the rubber short ones rather than the Nuby/Tommy Tippee ones, the small ones that are sort of a little bit bigger than her fist she can easily grab and manoeuvre round a bowl (I’ll try and find a pic to show you what I mean),

It’s trial and error and just a case of continuing to introduced new things, every new taste/texture is different to them and sometimes that means they will refuse first but you have to offer each new food something like 10-20 times before you know they actually don’t like it! X

This is the kind of spoon I mean @HeartyBlueReader it’s much easier for them to hold and use than a “proper” spoon like the Nuby/Tommy Tippee ones which are longer. So easier for them to use to self feed x

My daughter is 8months we do-
0700- 7oz bottle
0930- breakfast and 5oz
1230-lunch
1630-tea
1830-7oz bottle

How long has she been doing the loaded spoon for? My daughter is 8months and loves her food but I am mainly feeding her. She will grasp a food but she’s not great with it.

I’ve pretty much offered a loaded spoon from the very start of her weaning, I’d say from about 8 months ish she’s been consistently putting it straight into her mouth rather than throwing it onto the floor😂 they are all different though! And still now we occasionally have a spoon on the floor/in her hair/in my hair! X

The current advice is 13.5 Floz/450 ml a day for babies between 10 and 12 months so I would drop a bottle but drop one now and then another when she's got used to it in a couple of weeks.

There's a great guide to feeding babies here from the Caroline Walker Trust. You'll probably need from page 77

Ah thank you so much @Mrsttcno1 !! I have got them spoons I used one of them tonight with her (pre loaded) and she kinda done it herself a few times then it went on the floor😂 she didnt eat much again today really but I guess patience is key and am definitely gonna start letting her just try feeding herself thank you so much 💗

@TinyMouseTheatre Ah ill have a look at that thank you!! Always struggle with definite answers on stuff like this when googling as loads of things say different! Yeah am definitely not gonna just drop them both straight away I’ve just reduced the amount of the 3pm bottle today and then gave her the normal amount at bed time, gonna do this for a couple days then drop 1 bottle then wait a couple weeks and drop the other one thank you so much x

My 10.5month old has always had a very small appetite but this is our day:

7.30 Milk (150-200ml)
8.30 Breakfast
10.30 Snack (nursery days only)
12.00 Lunch
1.45 Milk (if at home 120ml / if at nursery she won't take any milk from the staff)
3.00 Snack (nursery days only)
4.30 / 5.00 Tea
6.45 Milk (150ml - 220ml)

On average, I'd say we are around 350ml per day, but she is maintaining her weight centile on that amount and we have close input from HVs due to her feeding issues and they are happy. I've just this week started introducing "pudding" (yoghurt or fruit alongside the main meal).

She will try feeding herself with fingers but isn't keen on accepting a loaded spoon. So you can also just let her get stuck in to whatever you are spoon feeding her. We were under SALT for a while due to awful tongue tie / poor tongue function and then told us to go slow with weaning, so we've been doing a very slow and steady approach. She gags a lot and we had one episode of choking where I had to deliver back blows but it hasnt seemed to have affected her confidence with food at all - although it did mine for a while! (BTW, if you don't feel confident, do a baby first aid course. Every doctor we saw after the choking congratulated me on doing it and how important it was).

I also hate the whole weaning process and this is my second time going through it so I'll be glad when it's all over!

I found a lot of sites quite contradictory too but the 450 ml is the NHS recommended amount, it's just a but hard to find