Looking for reassurance for babies first night away from home

[Mamaof2littles]

My baby is coming up 9 months. I am sleep deprived af and in need of a break! My mam is going to have her for the night so I can rest. I'm just a bit worried as she is breastfed to sleep for bed and through the night and she mostly does not let me husband help out. (He could persist but that's not what I'm after I don't mind going to her if she's crying).

My son was exactly the same for feeding and he was totally fine staying out and he actually stayed out sooner than she has, however he did used to let dad help more often!

Anyone have any experience? Will she be ok, will she truly know mammy isn't there so will be different? I just don't want her to be sad but I need the zzs

How will she feed over night if she only bf?

@Organisedwannabe she takes a bottle no bother!

@Fishfried I feel like with my husband she knows I'm here and if I hear her I will go to her

As long as she takes a bottle, knows your mum well and your mum's fully up for it and prepared for a sleepless night they'll get through OK.
Top up your sleep bank OP.
ZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzz. All of that and more. Best of luck!

@heldinadream thank you! She does love my mam and regularly spends the day with just her!

Honestly I think it's not a great thing to do to your baby OR your mum if your baby is BF to sleep. It's a ridiculous idea. I have a BF child myself.

Oh sorry you said she takes a bottle in your update. In that case, I'm sure she'll be OK. You said in your first post she BF through the night to sleep.

I just don't want her to be sad but I need the zzs

Will she be sad or hungry?

Sometimes she is just rocked to sleep or cuddled to sleep I mainly just choose to bf cos it's the fastest easiest for us! I know my son was fine when he stayed out it's just worrying she might not be as she doesn't let dad help when he did. I'm just praying she'll understand she's with someone else and be ok, otherwise I will be collecting her even if it's the middle of the night! Lol

@Bigfellabamboo she will have a bottle if she's hungry. Totally should have clarified she takes a bottle in my OG post 😅

She may well do fine OP especially if she is used to your mum and they have a good relationship.

Haha! Well in that case go for it

I’m so sorry OP, I thought I was posting on the breakup songs post! I’ve reported my comment

Surely it would be better for everyone if you let your husband persevere. I don't understand why you won't let him because you're "happy" to go to her if she cries, but you're sending her to your mum's to catch up on one night if sleep.

By all means, do that. But if she can stay overnight with your mum, why on earth can't her own dad comfort her and give her a bottle. Makes no sense. You're denying them the chance to bond and for her to be comforted by her dad and the result is you shooting yourself in the foot. You could be getting more sleep.