Some advice please, I’d be interested in your opinions. My husband has told me he would like to foster a child at 55. To set the scene, I have one grown up child (currently in higher education). My husband is a little older than me and, through no fault of his own, has never had children. He didn’t speak of wanting them until recently as it’s not a subject that’s arisen although he’s mentioned how he feels he’s missed out of the joy of parenting. He would very much like a baby with me but I’m no longer able to have children and, in any event, I feel this is a part of my life that’s over with. I’m financially settled now and am looking forward to a more carefree lifestyle.
My instant reaction is to say no. He cares for me deeply and says he will support my decision but I do wonder if I’m being unreasonable? There’s a desperate shortage of foster parents locally and I know he wants to help young people that have had a difficult upbringing. I’m not sure I can cope with supporting a child again. I’m aware too that many will have had a challenging start to life and will likely be bringing all sorts of mental health challenges into my home.
What do you think? I’d be particularly interested to hear from those that have fostered.