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Struggling with this stage

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Lightofheart · 15/02/2025 12:44

This is my second child so I know that everything is a phase that will pass and there will be different challenges further on but I am struggling at the moment.

Baby is 9 months old and not crawling yet. He gets very frustrated being put down as he wants to move but can't. He can get onto his knees but only for a few seconds before flopping onto his tummy and then starts crying. He will go in the bouncer for a little bit so I can nip to loo or get older child lunch etc but otherwise I don't really know what to do with him.

I also find with him being the second that his naps are all over the place because we're here there and everywhere with older child and he ends up with little cat naps throughout the day. If I am at home on my own with him he'll go for a long 2-3 hour nap in the afternoon. I feel guilty on days he doesn't get that solid chunk of sleep and also from a slightly selfish pov he's sleeping whilst I'm driving so I get no down time to get anything done!

I don't know if this will be easier or harder once he can actually move. I got post natal anxiety with my first when he hit 8 months and I worry it's creeping back again. Although it is more tolerable knowing what it is and that it will pass.

I don't know what I need from this post, but just needed a rant.

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FirstTimeMum881 · 17/02/2025 16:10

Your older child should go to nursery ASAP, I think most of us would really really struggle having a toddler and a baby all day every day. It's my idea of hell really.

If you're putting your younger one in a pram or a sling every day, then she doesn't have time to practice to actually crawl/walk. They need lots and lots of floor play. I know us parents love to push baby around but we had to see a baby physio early on and she insisted it's not good for them and they need as much floor time as possible.

They also need consistent naps, you're never gonna get that if you have to follow a toddler around all day.

Pomegranatemum · 17/02/2025 18:08

Rant heard OP 💐

I can foresee I’m going to end up in a similar position to you. My DC2 is a bit younger but we already have the nap issues you describe ie short naps without much routine. Some of that is due to DC1 but it’s also partly because sleep was such a battle with DC1, e.g. spending longer trying to get her to nap than she ended up sleeping, and I just don’t have the time, energy and inclination for that this time around.

PP suggested putting older child in nursery. Ours is in 3 days a week already and for various reasons I’m not keen to increase that.

Interested to hear from others…

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