Toddler Parenting/discipline - FTM help

[Laalaalala]

Hi all

looking for some advice please as a FTM I don’t know how I am suppose to correct behaviour

my son is just gone 2. Doesn’t speak but understands well and he knows he is being naughty and purposely defying/ignoring waiting for a reaction

eg, we have a gated driveway so he likes to run around before we get in the car which was fine. But now he just goes to purposely sit on the floor. Even when it’s wet he will sit in the puddle and watch and wait for your reaction so often before we even get to nursery it’s another outfit change. So I stopped letting him run and carried him to the car and he kicked off screaming for a few days. I go pick him up and say no we don’t sit on the floor and carry him to the car/house if wet

he loves going outside in the car etc. but sometimes will be fine nd alllow me to put shoes and coats on. Sometimes he is purposely difficult. Kicks his shoes off as soon as you put them on, 5 times over. I have checked not too small/big. 10 mins later he is fine with them on so sometimes it’s a battle. This morning I just carried him to the car with no shoes on then put them on at nursery.

im struggling because i know he understands no and he shouldn’t do that etc but its like he is doing it on purpose to be naughty and get a reaction but he cant communicate.

any useful tips/advice please?

I'd buy him some waterproof pants. Sit away, friend! 😂

Distract, distract, distract. "Good boy, your shoes are on. Oh look, a toy dinosaur! Is he going to ride with us in the car?" etc.

Also... just accept that you will put shoes back on about a billion times between now and school. It's your life now. That and providing endless snacks. 😂

He's two. He may well understand, but he's got a LONG time of pushing boundaries and understanding why to come.

Personally, I'd put waterproof trousers on him and ignore the sitting on the floor... We've not had shoe battles yet but distraction? That's usually the answer!

Totally normal. Not "naughty", just normal behaviour for this stage of development. Distraction and humour are good ways to get through it, so that things don't become too tense or stressful for either of you.

He wants to do it he's not concerned about wet/mucky. I'd get waterproofs and let him crack on

Agree with all PP - he's not being naughty, he's learning his limits and what social norms are. Hold the boundary and be consistent and it will pass!

Do you like reading? New Toddler Taming book by a paediatrician Dr Green has a lot of good advice

Thank you all!!

waterproof pants are genius… then he can get on with it. Good to know battles like these are normal too!