People on maternity leave with 2 - how do you split childcare?

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Im on maternity leave with a 6 month old and a 2.5 year old. Partner works full time. Both are home with me most days, 2.5 year old goes to childminder once a week. My mum is here most days and helps loads, but I find that I end up never getting any time to myself, ever.

At weekends / evenings my partner is there but I often feel like we divide and conquer so he only ever has the toddler and I’m constantly on baby duty, it’s so draining.

I want to “book in” a few hours a week to myself, but not sure if I’m being a bit selfish? Or if it’s too formal?!

How does everyone else do it? Is it just a grin and bear it situation and before you know it they’re 27?

My daughter had just turned two when my twins were born and it was horrific - she went to nursery for 3 days and it was such a struggle/ the guilt etc but we didn't have any assistance from anyway and it was the only way to cope.

On the Friday night , once two year old was asleep, my husband took the twins and every Friday and Saturday I slept in the spare room to get some me time and some sleep. I could also take my two year old out with me on Saturday mornings . That was my saviour !

Bit of a pile on. It's not a competition as to who has it hardest. The OP had a genuine question. Totally reasonable to ask for a couple of hours a week. It's important to look after yourself too. As the pp said, my husband also took the monitor/baby/kid duty on a Friday night and I slept in the spare room. Bloody loved it.