Second baby....

[Rose1999]

Please can I have some positive stories?

Has anyone been “one and done” and then fell pregnant? How did you feel?

Me! Due in about 6 weeks. Felt awful to start with and seriously considered a termination. Feel a bit calmer now, although think I'm in denial!

Thank you for sharing and congratulations 💖

I feel so worried about being one and done.

I love my child but don't want another. I'm worried there is something wrong with me?

Of course there isn't. It's totally normal and how I've always felt too

What's your situation? Are you pregnant and going ahead with the pregnancy? I still have lots of reservations, but felt calmer once I'd made a decision. Trying to stay positive that my DD will get a lot out of having a sibling!

I MAY be pregnant but it's too early to check. I already don't know what to feel. My daughter has just turned one years old and I literally can't imagine how I could ever love a child as much as I love her.

I felt like this. I still do. But everyone assures me you just do.

I was worried about not loving a new baby as much as DC1 but I did, so much. I felt more calm and capable second time round, it felt easier with 2.

That is so lovely x

For what it's worth, I was 'one and done', took the morning after pill a couple of times when DD was a toddler and now regret it, wondering if either would have resulted in pregnancy. I would love a second DC now.

Fell pregnant when my DS was 14 months old after being adamant I was one and done. I really struggled with my first DS.
2nd DS is now 4 months old and it's been so different this time. Going from 1-2 was way easier than 0-1. It's not the nuclear bomb going off in your life like the first is.
Pregnancy with a toddler on the other hand.... Horrific!

Fell pregnant and was sick with anxiety at first. Seriously considered termination, even ordered the pills through the post.

It's been brilliant. Obviously, some hard and tiring moments, but easier than I found the first year with my first born. As PP said, I felt so much calmer and more capable second time around. I accepted that I probably wouldn't feel the same way about the second baby immediately, after having 2.5 years with my older one, and that really helped with any guilt. I loved him and bonded with him so quickly, and having him was actually massively healing for me after what was probably PND with my first born.

I'm 11 weeks, DS is just coming up on 15 months. I had a feeling before my period was even due and sure enough, it never arrived and I was pregnant. Was freaking out for a few days...we live in a 2 bedroom so immediate thought was that we'll need to move house. My OH has 2 older kids, was happy to have another with me but we were both happy with one and done so I was concerned about how he would take it as well. He needed a few days to get his head round it but overall took it better than I thought. His main panic was also about moving house as we're quite comfortable here financially and I can afford to take another year of maternity etc but if we were to end up with bigger mortgage etc and more expensive bills, we'd need to tighten our belts. We've made the decision to just stay put...kids will be happier sharing a room with happy parents than with a room each and parents who are stressed about money 😊 now that that decision is made we are both excited and looking forward to 12w scan to see baby for the first time! I actually feel like I can't imagine only having one now and think my DS will make such a great big brother. It will be nice for him to have a play pal since his half siblings are both so much older.