6 yr old daughter alienating mummy

[RainDad]

Desperately seeking advice: Our little girl, 6, has always been a daddy’s girl but, lately, it’s become at the expense of her Mum. Mum and I have always presented a unified front when it comes to discipline, although it falls largely on Daddy’s shoulders to actually discipline as DD simply doesn’t listen to Mum. DD, when questioned about it this week stated she “can’t control her anger” but I know this isn’t the case as she’s in control of it sufficiently enough to be able to direct it (she’s NEVER like that with Daddy…Daddy and DD have the exact relationship that mummy desperately wants). My theory is that DD is stamping her ownership of daddy and is lashing out at mum in order to warn her off…”Territorialism”…Am I right? What’s to be done??
Thanks!

your post is a bit vague… not sure what you are looking for advise on. Also your 6 year old says her mum can’t control her anger… 🤔

Why are you talking in third person?? Are you the dad in this scenario? Do you talk in third person in front of your child all the time? It sounds more like the relationship between the parents isn’t the best when it comes to general parenting, or there wouldn’t be such a strong reaction from the child. Children feel safer with consistency from both parents, and consistent boundaries.

Your post is not clear. Did your kid mean she, the child cannot control her anger, or your wife?
Your wife should spend more time with her child one on one.

DD, when questioned about it this week stated she “can’t control her anger”

To me, it’s the daughter who is saying she can’t control her anger.

Yes that’s how I read it also, the child said she can’t control her anger.

This does happen sometimes, there have definitely been periods where my DD has gone to her dad over me, but now she is approaching 10, she is firmly by side every minute she isn’t asleep or at school.

Have you tried saying if you don’t listen to mom, this will happen (insert appropriate consequence) and then actually follow through with it?

What a very odd, very adult thing for a child to say.

Get the mother to post this in normal, non-creepy language, with more details about work hours, home life and the specific behavioural issues.

Are you the dad? The way you have written this post is really weird.

This. Frankly, bloody weird.

Referring to yourself as Daddy in the third person in a conversation with adults is a tad creepy

Ok…Now I see what actually goes on in here. Thanks for the clarification. It clearly wouldn’t matter one iota, how the post was written, or from whatever viewpoint…The fact that it’s not written by a Mum, precludes it from having validity. I get it. I’m not part of your weird Stepford club. No worries. We’ll ask for help from people that actually know what they’re talking about.

That didn't take long.

Ask for free advice from people you don't feel contempt for. It won't be as good, but you takes your chances.

Why wasn’t that written in third person?

How utterly bizarre!

I'm not a mum 💁‍♀️

Wow there is no need for hostility. Is your little one exposed to much of this attitude at home?
I would see it as your DD going through a bit of a phase. Kids that age say a lot of things that they don't even have the understanding of. They also like to test boundaries. They often show one parent preferences from time to time but it will pass. Maybe a Mummy & Daughter day with an activity chosen by your DD could help. Make a fuss about it.
Don't falter in repeating that she must listen to both her Mum and Dad when it comes to discipline. Consistency is key and age appropriate consequences if she fights against Mums disciplining.