4 year old struggling with emotions

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Hi, my DS started reception last September. His first few weeks seemed to go ok, but he was struggling to make friends (we had just moved to the area). At his parents evening his teacher mentioned he can be quite emotional and get easily frustrated, which to be honest we knew. Even as a baby and toddler, he would get easily worked up when playing etc.
It seems everything has gone downhill since. He lacks concentration, cannot seem to regulate his emotions at all and spends a lot of the day crying. He also copies another child, who has SEN. We’ve been called into school for a few meetings and they’ve suggested an educational psychologist (it’s an academy so they have access to one) and to get the ball rolling with that.
He is struggling at home too, and I’m struggling to manage his behaviour particularly in the afternoon. He is also waking for the day at 5, which isn’t helping as he’s up for 4 hours before school even starts. I just want him to be happy and have the support, he’s such a kind and caring boy and I want to help him the best I can at home.
Thank you if you’ve got this far, just feels very lonely.

When is he five? Could you consider repeating the year? My little boy is a summer born and he was the same last year, so emotional and just not coping. We live in a country where it’s normal to defer. He is halfway through a second year on pre school and is flying! Runs in everyday and has made loads of friends, at his parents evening last week his teacher was full of praise for him and no concerns which was a stark contrast to the previous year when they said they didn’t think he would cope emotionally in main stream school! They are so very young at four and schools are so quick to put them into boxes when sometimes all they need is a bit of time