I’m not sure if I’ve posted in the right area!
the sleep deprivation with my 15 month old son is going to finish me off… he has slept through the night less than a handful of times. The best night we ever had with him was him sleeping till 5am (this happened once)
usually he goes to sleep by 8am and he goes in his cot in his own bedroom. On a ‘good’ night he will sleep till around 3am, then wake screaming and I resort to putting him in our bed but he never settles. And nights like tonight he woke at midnight and I’ve been up and down since then with him and it’s now 3.45am 😞 even when in our bed, he thrashes around like he can’t get comfortable and cries in his sleep. He pulls my hair out by the root and if I move his hand away he screams or starts scratching my face. I find the hair pulling so irritating and I get so agitated over it. Not to mention he has ripped out/ snapped so much of my hair on one side even my hair dresser has noticed
me and dh both have work in the morning and we both work full time and it’s killing us. Ds won’t go to dh at all during the night and screams the house down if dh tries to hold him. Dh tries his best to help me and even though ds won’t go to him, dh often just ends up sitting with me for support because I’m in tears.
we have tried so many things, different forms of gentle sleep training, leaving him to cry (no longer than 2 minutes but he screams so much he nearly vomits!). Our oldest son is nearly 3, there is literally 20 months between them, and he is an amazing sleeper. He goes to bed awake with his lullaby music on and falls asleep with his peppa pig teddy. He sleeps for 11 hours straight and we literally never have a problem with him. We did the ‘pick up put down’ sleep training method and he has been great ever since. We tried the same with our younger ds every night for a week and it was a fail. He screams so loud our neighbours across the road can hear. He doesn’t stop till I pick him up and then he will fall asleep on my but then wake up screaming then fall asleep again and wake screaming, repeat. Even after calpol or more milk he does this. I’m at my wits end.
for background info, he was born full term but spent a week in NICU. Was an early walker at 11 months, very good on his feet and can actually run now, saying lots of words, eats everything I offer him, drinks lots of water, very loving and affectionate and will go to anyone for a kiss and hug, loves his toys and playing with his big brother, generally a very happy toddler during the day, he has 8 teeth (four front top and bottom) and I have spotted two more coming at the back.
my mum offers to have him every now and again but I feel terrible on her losing so much sleep, she is 65 and she wants to help but I feel so guilty sending him away and my mum struggling with him 😞 I love him so much but he is going to kill me with his sleep 😞😞