Would this be too much change for my two year old?

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Potentially moving in a months time. To a town 40mins drive away so we would have to change DDs nursery. Would moving house plus nursery at the same time be too much for her?

I’m feeling guilty as she absolutely loves her nursery and the people there and is very settled, it’s an amazing setting and am also considering leaving her there. But the commute might become too much.

Is it too much to do two big changes or should I let her settle at home then move her to a closer nursery after a month?

Any other experiences of moves with little ones appreciated thank you x

I think it will be fine as long as it’s framed in a positive way such as ‘you get a new bedroom and get to go to a new nursery and meet lots of new friends’ type way. It would be less of an ordeal than driving for such long journeys to her old nursery, only to be moved anyway, as that would be confusing. She would wonder why she could still go there initially and then suddenly not be allowed.

We moved from an apartment to a house in September. Then my LO started in a new creche in November, just a few days after she turned two. She took the house move in her stride apart from a few restless nights. She loved all the extra space and having an upstairs.
The new creche weren't ready to take her until November so we did the 20 minute drive twice a day every day and it was a nightmare. She suffers from car sickness and whinged the whole time, it was so draining. I also felt guilty dragging her across the motorway twice a day. I definitely would have put her in the new creche straight away if I could have.
Like you, my LO was very settled in her old creche and loved the staff so I was worried about the change. She finished in old creche on Friday and started new creche on Monday and it was seamless. I think she thought it was just a new room in the same creche. She absolutely loves this creche now, possibly more than the last one.
There's a lot to be said for having your childcare local to you as well. Before she moved, if I had days off or was sick I had to do that drive twice a day regardless. Make life as easy for yourself as possible!

If you’re thinking of moving her after a month anyway, I’d be inclined to say don’t bother and get all the changes out of the way at once so she can begin to process and get used to the new normal. Yes it’s a lot of upheaval, but it’s one intense period of change rather than dragging out two almost back-to-back. A month isn’t a long time to settle, so don’t be surprised if your toddler takes longer. Unless you can stagger major changes a good 6 months apart, giving toddlers time to really adjust in between, I think it’s better to rip the plaster off quickly, if that makes sense.

It's normal for children to move nursery if they house. She will be fine.

Nope, kids are much more resilient that we give them credit for. It will probably be harder on you than on her. We moved about 2 hours away a few years ago. Big move, new nursery for ds (and starting school a few months later) and new school for dd. After a few weeks, it was like we’d always been here.

My daughters nursery closed with no notice 3 months before we were due to move town so we had irregular child care for that time. Mix of family care, emergency leave from work and book by the hour childcare for 12 weeks. We started settling in sessions at the new nursery in the weeks before the move and had 3 sessions the week after we moved and started the week after that, I had the week off work so she did shorter days for this week. She was a bit clingy for the first 4-6 weeks but there was a lot of upheaval. We had bereavement too so it was a difficult 4 month period for us. She settled into the new nursery after about 8 weeks she was a different child. She blossomed and loved nursery more than the old one which turned out to have significant issues and she settled into the new home so well. We were very nervous as it was only the last settling in session that had been able to leave her and we had been looking at doing some half days during that first week but it was unnecessary. She started the week 10-4 working up to 9-5 by the end of the first week after that it was 8.30-6.

Thanks everyone, I think I’ll just change her nursery then and make it as positive an experience as possible. I think it will be harder on me, I love her nursery and I trust them and she’s so happy so worried she won’t be as happy somewhere new!

We moved countries when DD was 2.
House was fine, nursery fine... but she only really settled when she saw her grandparents again a month later. It was the people like that that mattered, not the location as such.