Am I alone in finding it difficult to fill the day with my three month old?

[MangoPango]

I was just wondering, my DD is three months old, and I'm really loving being a mum. The only thing is I do find it really difficult to fill the days! I just went for a lovely walk in the sunshine and there were loads of groups of mums doing stuff together. I felt a bit jealous! Thing is, I only have NCT, once a week ... other than that I'm struggling as I don't live near my old friends. Can you reassure me that I'm not the only one? Are all you first-timers out there busy meeting friends every day or am I normal!?

Whereabouts are you MN sometimes have meet up's ?

find out from health visitor or surestart what's going on in your area. None of my friends had any kids, I was the first one so had to branch out and make new friends at playgroups etc. Go to everything then make your mind up which ones you prefer (and which people you get on with).

To be completely honest, I was bored stiff for 50% of the day while lo slept etc. I couldn't wait for him to be old enough to play with, and he's so much fun now at a year old. I agree with the oter advice about finding things to do - how about baby swimming?

Nursery rhyme sessions in local library?

Keep fit mother-and-baby sessions (see buggyfit, for example)?

Baby massage classes?

Baby swimming sessions?

All good places to meet other mums with babies around the same age. The library is even free!

Hi DS2 is nearly 1 now and when he was born I had friends from DS1. However, with DS1 I remember feeling exactly the same. It can be really hard to make Mummy friends when your babies are too young to go to playgroups or baby music etc. From 6 months or so you can start doing this stuff and it definately helps you meet new people.

At this sort of age with DS1 I remember spending alot of time in supermarkets (sad I know) and walking around rambling wildly at strangers as I had not enough adult contact that day. Only thing I can suggest, is suggesting more meetings with your NCT friends, they are probably feeling exactly the same as you but don't like to be the first to admit it.

baby massage really good meeting place i oftern meet up with the mums from there and dd is same age.

I have a 7 week old and find it fairly dull to be perfectly honest, so I am working one day a week from home as of next week! I love DD to bits but agree that it can be difficult to fill the days. I go to the gym most days now I'm allowed as they have a creche and I like the me time! Often meet non baby friends for lunch too.

Definitely look into whether or not there are any local MNetters to you, under local you can do "meet a mum".

Mangopango agree re. some of the suggestions on here. I made sure I had something to do every day, whether it was NCT meet up, Mums & Babies group, swimming, lunch with working friends, baby yoga, baby massage, music group etc. etc. I met people through all these things and did meet ups with them as well. It actually became a bit of a relief when I had odd days with nothing to do.

I'm not sure where you live but I'd definately say make the most of this time whilst your baby is little and fairly portable to go and do some things for you, as it becomes much harder when they are older and less able to contain. Make the most of the sunshine, go to some galleries, go and visit non-friends, read, watch films when they are sleeping, talk to people on the phone, sort out the shed etc...Check out your local cinema for 'mum and baby viewings' in the day time. All the things that are impossible to do with a toddler clamped to your leg.

Other than that, speak to HV to see what's on in your area, check out the library (lots of little babies come along to the singing at my local library)...

Enjoy!

I mean't non-baby friends. More haste less speed.

I found it got easier to find stuff to do with them when they were a bit older...theres really not a lot you can do with a 3 month old IME! All I did at that stage was PN group meets, walk and coffee shop visits, usually alone!(make the most of that now - it wont be so easy later!)Once I started baby groups I started to meet people more and things picked up a lot socially. We did a baby gym class and a music group. Oh, and early(ish) on I went to the gym once/twice a week since they had a creche...I had a very hard work DS1 and it gave me a bit of respite as well as helping me get back in shape. Perhaps check out your local authority gym if thats your cup of tea..?

But yep, have to say it can be dull...in my new PN group (I have a second DC now) we have all admitted to finding it boring at times. My old PN group (DS1)on the other hand all seemed constantly enthralled by the early baby days. Everyone is different I guess.

Anyway, it does pick up is all I can add!

Go to a local park and grin like a banshee at everyone, you will soon find everyone else feels the same and may form friendships.

What's wrong with wandering around the mall, going to daytime cinema screenings mooching around museums and generally trying to live up to people's expectations of new mothers leisurely lives (hollow laugh here - but there are def. some perks to being home w/ baby).