DD prefers DH and it’s slightly soul destroying

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DD is only 2.7 but for about 9 months now has been all about daddy. Which is lovely for him, but I don’t know where I’m going wrong (or if I am?)

DH is excellent at imaginary play, I know he’s the fun one. I have a day with DD in the week but I struggle to ‘play’ so instead we go to the library, the farm, for lunch - which are all very nice but I wonder if she just thinks I’m not as fun?

I could kind of manage it. On our day off together she asks where he is, says she misses him, wants him home etc. I asked DH if she says the same on his day off with her but he’s admitted she doesn’t even mention me.

I think I’m feeling emotional as she didn’t want anything to do with me tonight. She actually told me to go sit in the kitchen whilst her and DH watched tv (which I obviously didn’t do! And DH explained that wasn’t kind etc) and then requested that he did bedtime and that was that.

Just feeling a bit flat. I’m sure it’s a phase but the constant rejection is hurtful 😂 I love her to pieces but feel like I’m failing a bit as a mum. She runs to DH when she falls over or hurts herself so I can’t even say ‘oh at least I’m her comfort!’. I try so hard but feel like I’m coming up short. Will this pass?

It will pass ❤️

It hurts but it won't be like this forever. She may be a daddy's girl but she still loves you.

Don't be too disheartened x

DD was probably around that age when she fell over in the garden. I rushed to comfort her to be told, "I don't want you - I want Kim!". Kim was her Nursery Care Assistant.
It hurt but i was grateful DD had built that relationship with her care worker, and while I appreciate your situation stings, I'd encourage you to be grateful your DD has that bond with her Dad.

As PP, it will pass.

I'm also not great at imaginary play but I was (am) good at letting DD make a mess / have fun. When you go to the farm/park/beach encourage her to splash in puddles and make mud pies. Get into an empty bath together and play with bubbles/slime/shaving foam/flour, water and food colouring. Put a massive flat cardboard box on the floor, strip her off and let her hand print, foot print and "body paint"!

Just have a different type of fun together.