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Stopping cosleeping plan - advice please

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mumtoababygirl · 27/01/2025 22:03

I need some advice on my plan to stop cosleeping with my 7.5mo baby please. I know some people love it but I don’t; I did it out of necessity because she was waking up every hour and I couldn’t cope and I was falling asleep holding her but I think I ultimately made things worse for myself.

She’s a terrible sleeper for naps and night time, and I can’t put her down if she’s fallen asleep she’ll wake straight back up with the exception of an initial stretch at night in her snuzpod. Sometimes in the night she’ll go back in but it can take two or three times and I have to feed her to sleep each time.

My plan is:

  • Go completely cold turkey sleeping in with us, so put her in her cot every time for naps and night sleeping
  • If she wakes up, still feed her back to sleep each time but not in bed
  • Put a temporary bed in her room for me to sleep in there with her but don’t put her in the bed with me
  • Try and make bedtime earlier as part of it as she won’t sleep until 10pm and we inevitably wake her up at 7am when DH gets up for work, it doesn’t seem like enough sleep for her

I know it might be hard but if I really stick to it for a couple of weeks do you think it will work? Then once she’s used to sleeping in there I could phase out me being in there and ultimately the feeding to sleep too.

She’s still in her snuzpod for now but she won’t fit much longer plus she’s starting to learn to pull herself up so it’ll be unsafe.

I don’t want to let her cry it out or anything and I don’t want to change too much at once by trying to stop her feeding to sleep at the same time but I’m desperate to improve things on a night, it all just feels such a mess at the minute.

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Hilarioushilda · 28/01/2025 02:13

At 7.5 mths why do you think she or her will get more sleep in different rooms?
doesn’t work that way.

mumtoababygirl · 28/01/2025 18:57

Hilarioushilda · 28/01/2025 02:13

At 7.5 mths why do you think she or her will get more sleep in different rooms?
doesn’t work that way.

I don’t, but this is phase 1 of very gently sleep training her.

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PreggersWithBaby2 · 19/03/2025 04:28

How is it going OP? I desperately want to stop cosleeping

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SunshineAndFizz · 19/03/2025 05:10

Forget the mattress. Just jump to you not being there.

My biggest bit of advice- the most important thing - don’t feed her to sleep. She needs to learn how to fall asleep herself or you’ll forever be getting up through the night. Feed her, cuddle her but put her down. She’ll kick off - you cuddle her and put her back down again. Rinse and repeat (but stick with it). It’ll take about 3 nights to nail it. You’ll be so thankful you did.

LegoHouse274 · 19/03/2025 05:26

I disagree that you need to stop feeding to school to get your baby to sleep in their cot. At that age my first was being rocked to sleep for bed (bottle fed - sleeping through the night). My second was fed to sleep - breastfed - woke twice a night briefly for breastfeeding back to sleep. They both slept in their cots, I put them down asleep.

Personally I would focus first on just getting them to sleep in the bed. So after each feed put them down. If they wake on transfer, I'd offer the other breast and then put them down again. If they wake on transfer again, personally I'd get DH to deal with them then and their job to get them back down - do you have a partner?

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