Fussy baby support group!!

[TeainanIV]

My second baby turns 3 months on Wednesday and my gosh have they been an exhausting three months 🙃. After a tricky start with my eldest (CMPA & egg allergy) she eventually settled and became a happy, chilled out little baby. I thought we were in for a smoother ride with her baby sister... Oh how wrong I was!!

My second born is, quite simply, a fussy madam!! All day long she moans, cries or outright screams. Her naps are atrocious, only naps with a boob in her mouth or, if I'm lucky, max 30mins in the pram (but I have to fight for it and basically rally race the pram around the streets to get her to nod off!). She wakes from her naps and if she isn't immediately fed all hell breaks loose!

She requires constant stimulation or for me to hold her - but god forbid I hold her sat down!! Oh no, she must be held upright and facing out otherwise she will let me know about it!! She won't go in the sling - she hates it and screams and writhes around in it. If I pop her in our carrier she does the same!

I dread the evenings, she gets progressively worse throughout the day until by evening time she is so grumpy - either screaming unless being fed or whinging unless carried around.

We are currently trailing no dairy or soya as she's had awful reflux since she was three weeks but this doesn't seem like that. I also wouldn't be surprised if she's often overtired, but even the days when we get longer naps she's still just as fussy. I'm just convinced she's a super fussy, high needs, velcro baby!!! Anyone else in the same boat?! My poor toddler must be sick of her sister's screaming too!!

Really am struggling to enjoy maternity leave at the moment and so envious as my other friends have such chilled out, happy little babies who seem so settled. What am I doing wrong?! When did it get easier with your fussy babes?

You’re not alone! I had dc5 12 weeks ago, she was quite chilled early on (she was induced early due to iugr) and I thought I was in for a lovely chilled out baby - I was wrong! Once she had a sleepy few weeks to catch up on some growth she has now become quite a feisty little thing. She cries. A lot. Inconsolably. No matter what I do. Went to the gp in case it was reflux but they said it wasn’t, so no help there! I love her to absolute bits but it’s hard work getting out of the house because she just cries and I get all flustered because I can’t comfort her a lot of the time! One of my older dcs was high needs but she’s now 16 so that’s a distant memory!
What I am sure of though is that it gets better, you’re doing amazingly and you’re not doing anything wrong!

Oh god this sounds identical to our little one! She was so chilled those first few weeks 😭. Our little girl does have reflux but it's quite well managed at the moment and to be honest, even when not having a flare up she's just always moaning or crying!! I'm the same, I get so anxious going out as she goes from 0-100 very, very quickly 🙃!! She looks like a little angel when she naps 😅 but she wakes and unless fed immediately very quickly begins to scream at the top of her lungs until ai rectify that!! Sending solidarity - I'm the same and I've completely forgotten when things felt easier with my first daughter. Fairly sure she wasn't as high needs as my second though!! Thanks for your reply x

I'm so glad I came across this thread! Exactly the same boat. First DC was such a dream and very easy to connect with. She cuddled up to be ready to and was amazing at self play but my second has been the exact opposite. She's now 24 months and grunts and cries a lot of the day. I'm hoping when she starts speaking she will become less fussy!! Hopefully we've got the fussy stage now and they'll be great pre schoolers 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

My daughter was like this a dream in many ways until 3 weeks except a feeding refusals over night.
Then she got worse and worse. She was quite a sicky baby so we started reflux treatment for that but she got worse and worse still. By 17 weeks I was beside myself and begging for help. She cried 16+h a day was never out of my arms couldn't be put down awake or asleep. Miserable continuously.
We saw a paediatrician for something else and he diagnosed silent reflux in addition to the physical reflux and this turned out to be so much more severe than the physical reflux and has been on 3 medications to manage it since about 8 months.... she's now 4 and a half! In addition she has 20 food allergies all of which she reacted to me eating!
It's been a long journey getting and keeping things under control!