having friends to play !!

[gabbyfemale]

my children are getting to the age it seems that the done thing is that they go to one another's houses for dinner and then onto another after school activity, and then of course have their friends round to do the same thing. Whats the best way of politely turning someone down that has invited my child round? I don't like the child or the mother that much (and my child has never mentioned playing with hers) but most of all I really don't want the friend round here for dinner play - spoilt and cheeky you know what I mean. Its not that I don't want my children to have friends round its just this one particular one !

Unless you know them very well and have done for years, that sounds incredibly judgemental.

just say I'm sorry maybe another time

and keep saying it

I will bet you any money 'spoilt and cheeky' child is your child's best friend by the end of the week

tbh i think you sometimes have to tolerate things like this occasionally it may be that they arent as bad as you think you can always say sorry but we are busy that night but is it worth it really ?-ive learnt that the best way to stay happy is to bend a little bit in the playground.

you do it first time round

with subsequent children you think 'nah, I'll wait till they're through this stage thank you'

TBH, It's never really mattered to me whether I like the kid or the mum, what matters is whether my ds was good friends with them.

Who knows, you may have pre judged them.

lol twig by no 3 you see the benefits of home educating

I wouldn't have them over if I didn't like them. What Twig said - 'Sorry, busy that night' & keep saying it.

no they had a falling out over my childs best friend so doubt they are going to be bosom buddies. the child is over confident and my friend has told me that the child was a nightmare when she had her for dinner. I just cant understand why we've been given this invite..!! they dont play together (I know this for a fact) but just happen to be in the same club. I know my child and they just don't seem to be the likeliest of friends - don't get me wrong, its up to my children to make their own friends etc but at a young age its up to the parents to steer them a bit in the right direction?

thanks but difficult to say we're busy as the invite (and the expected return invite) is for a night they both go to the same club ... maybe I should just grin and bear it this time around and then say that's it all too much of a hassle to have friends round beforehand or something like that?

fine just say "oh I'm sorry but our DDs don't seem to get on that well at the moment and I think we should just let them find their own way to friendship"

then walk off singing gaily

be warned children change best friends at the drop of a hat