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When your child doesn't do well

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ducksinarownow · 26/01/2025 17:18

If your child has an individual sport they do competitively at quite a high level and they take quite seriously, how do you help them cope with the times it doesn't go well..?

I ask as my tween is having one of those periods at the moment - things aren't going so well (not performing as well as they have in the past, other people they usually out-perform overtaking them) and I'm finding it tough to deal with their emotions about it as DC is SO grumpy about it and gets so downhearted about it, and I just want to make it better.

Anytime this has happened I tell DC I'm proud of them regardless as they are more then just a person who is good at a sport, there are so many things about them that makes them a wonderful person & they work v hard to do their best, etc and that not every day can be their best day, there are always ups and downs etc and that I think they are doing great.

it's a sport I'm at best slightly below average at, so I think they are bloody amazing at it, I've never competed in anything in this way and we have never pushed them into in any way - it's a sport DC loves, and when it goes well DC loves competing. I've suggested occasionally they might want to take a break from competing if it's not enjoyable, as they can still do it without doing competitions, but Dc thinks I'm awful for even suggesting that!

I just don't know how best to support tbh having not been there myself and this is my eldest child. Any advice gratefully received!

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
pennydroppedtoday · 26/01/2025 17:27

All the above

Other ideas to help if they want to improve could be

Extra classes if affordable and there is time to do so

Practice with them at home but without knowing the sport this may not be possible

Film them in said sport and play it back so they can see what they are doing good and what needs some more practice

Good sleep hygiene

Good diet and water intake

Meditation and yoga on YouTube to help them relax and focus

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