Hello, sorry this will be a very long post but I’m at my wits end!
I have an 8yo son. On the whole he is a good kid but he has a hard time following instruction, having to tell him over & over to do something. This is usually because 1) he doesn’t want too or 2) he’s distracted & I can usually remove the distraction, but then leads to My other concerns of, that he has these temper tantrums where he just explodes & nothing can calm him down, anything can trigger this, along with the constant need to attention seek & act silly. If we are out for dinner or I’ve got friends round/my partner, he has to put on a performance but it ends up with his behaviour getting so silly, not listening & causing a tantrum, which infront of people looks like I have no control. I have school involved but they don’t think it’s a SEND issue. We are currently 1 week into having everything taken off him. Toys, tv & tablet. I’ve gave him toys back on the agreement he stays in his room & plays but he seems to have trouble with this, has to come out every 5 minutes to show me things & again worse if other people are here.
im a single mum, I work full time. He does see his dad 1 night in the week & every weekend, & he isn’t like this for them or anybody infact. Some days I dread the morning & evening battle with him. We have always had the same routine for both of these so it’s not like he isn’t aware of how we need to do to do things.
im fed up of being told ‘oh you’re his safe space’ ‘he’ll grow out of it’ ‘it’s just boy behaviour’
does anybody have any suggestions. Thanks