Advice?

[SL09x]

Hey guys,

Not sure how to put this but I need a bit of advice. I broke up with my boyfriend not so long ago due to it being controlling / emotional abuse being involved. But I'm also pregnant due this year at some point.
I do have another child that's from a previous relationship.

I moved homes due to my anxiety once we broke up, when I first fell pregnant I wasn't 100% sure I wanted to keep it so I considered abortion but I was told by him I wasn't allowed one because I need to ask for him permission first.

Now that I'm half way through his telling me that once the baby's born he wants to come round Monday- Friday & one day on the weekend, I've never said no to contact/ involvement I just don't think Monday to Friday including one day on the weekend is fair to my first born she's 8 she's always been an only child.

I've explained that I need to think about her needs too, it's a lot for anyone to adjust to let alone a little child who's always known it to be me & her.

Because I've mentioned that maybe 6 days a week is to much, his threatening me with court. Like I said I've never once said he can't have contact maybe just 4 days during the week & 1 on the weekend that way we all get a break.

Because we aren't together, I know that isn't a reason but because of work reasons he would be coming from work to here an he said he would leave around 10pm. My first born goes to bed at 9 an I usually fall asleep not long after .

Is there any advice you can give? As I don't wanna go court as I'm being civil.
I'm just stressing out a lot because 6 days a week is so much especially since I only saw him 2 times a week when we was together.

No
You can come twice a week after work and once for afew hours every other weekend

You want more, I’ll see you in court

The courts generally expect newborn babies to spend most of their time with their mother, they're unlikely to grant him access 6 days a week.

Also, register the birth on your own so he won't be on the birth certificate. That will delay any court dates.

See this is what I thought but because he keeps chucking court in the works I’m stressing so much, I have thought about not adding him to the birth certificate but again it goes back to the court case if I don’t he will use it against me.

I just physically can’t deal with seeing him 6 days a week, I get he wants to see the baby but he has to take into consideration I have another child an it’s just not his feelings it’s my first borns too as my little ones come before his as horrible as it sounds. Xx

I know someone who didn't put the partner/father on the birth certificate simply because they didn't know they both had to be present (unless both are married). So you could tell him you just didn't realise.

It sounds like you've be happy with an arrangement more equal, and that's most likely what the courts would go with. 6 days a week until 10pm is ridiculous by anyone's standards.

Him going to the courts would actually be more civil of him.