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One big fking struggle

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Anasjwj · 25/01/2025 00:43

I’m a first time single mum, with no family help. My life would be one million times better and easier if I could get sleep everyday even 2 hours of sleep not interrupted

dd is 9 months old soon she was a horrific sleeper since birth never slept she hasn’t changed she still wakes hourly just to cry till she is picked up dummy doesn’t work, patting shushing doesn’t work she’ll just get into a state then she’ll be wide awake for hours
I get NO sleep I swear to god I do not know how the hell I function I run on 2-4 hours sleep a day on a good day some days I don’t even bother trying to sleep because as soon as I shut my eyes she’s up Again she wakes about 20-25 times a night
she’s not cold or too hot she’s not hungry she eats enough gets enough fresh air plays enough pease trust I’ve tried everything I tried co sleeping it made no difference I’m not even looking for advicebecause I’ve tried a lot to the point I’m saving to pay for professional help as Icannot live like this anymore I can’t even remember the last 9 months of my life..

imsad because I am sooooooo miserable I hate how I feel I love my daughter so much but I’m really struggling to be happy and try enjoy motherhood I’m so jealous of people who have loving partners and can get help I’m so

to be honest sleep is the main issue but she just whinges al day anything you do is wrong she gets bored so fast she hates eating food she seems to just get irritated and cry after 5 mins
gets upset when bf just pops on and off constantly it’s just a struggle everything is a struggle and so miserable
Everyone says it will get better but I’ve been hearing this for Months now it absolutely has not got better it’s got worse much worse I’m sick of it I really need sleep
I would like her to go to nursery just so I can sleep literally but it’s so expensive

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DustyLee123 · 25/01/2025 07:14

My opinion is that you should stop the breast feeding.
Shes 9 months old, so eating 3 meals a day, so give her a bottle and IME she will sleep more.

Bepanthensavedmybumbum · 25/01/2025 07:24

Do you work? If not you have all day at home to catch naps when she does. You have to train yourself how to nap.

Will you be going back to work? You can get funded nursery hours.

Sleep deprivation is torture but it gets better. We had to feed our preterm baby every hour when they first came home. I was on maternity leave but DH had to go back to work so it mostly fell to me. I already knew how to nap as I worked in healthcare doing various shifts so I had taught myself how to nap for 20 minutes at a time. It really helped to know how to do this.

BettyBardMacDonald · 25/01/2025 08:06

Why is the father not helping you? Or his parents, or your parents?

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