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How do you get over not having more children?

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BigBubblesXX · 22/01/2025 16:46

I know this is probably a strange question, but how do you come to terms with not having anymore children?

I have 2 beautiful daughters who mean the absolute world to me, we struggled with fertility with our first so it took us a long time and a lot of Angel babies on the way before we had our daughter. She's 2 and a half now.

Then we conceived our second daughter quite quickly, to my surprise! I was happy but also sort of expecting it to take longer, but I got pregnant at 5 months pp. She's now 18 months old.

I always wanted a big family, I come from a very big family but my husband is from a pretty small family and initially didn't want any children, then decided 2 would be enough. He is an amazing husband and father and has said he doesn't want another child as we don't have the space or funds. I understand that but I know we could make it work and I just don't know how to give up thinking that we would have another child. I keep bringing it up with my husband but he's just adamant he doesn't want another. I am on the copper coil but with 2 small children it's not like we're jumping on each other anyway!

I just feel like I want another one and then I'm done but I guess I'll never know.

I know this makes me sound ungrateful, but I'm really not, I love my girls more than anything in the world, but I just feel a bit sad that I won't have another pregnancy, or newborn snuggles, and things like that 😞.

A lot of mum friends are now having their second pregnancies, and work friends are having first babies, so I'm sure that doesn't help my broodiness!

I'm still breastfeeding our youngest and he keeps asking when I'm going to wean, but I'm happy to leave her self wean if I'm honest, if this is the last time then I want her to decide when she's done, especially as she uses it for comfort right now with teething!

Has anyone felt similar? How did you get through it?

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fanaticalfairy · 22/01/2025 16:53

My SH is infertile, we used donor sperm and only 1 out 3 of the embryos stuck and we have our daughter. Would have been wonderful to have 3, bit it wasn't meant to be.

I just look at how lucky we are to have her, and think that we wouldn't be able to provide for 2 I'm the same way as 1. (Holidays, going out, bikes,. food quality etc)

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