Friction between mother, grandmother and stepfather/stepfrandad

[Caz272]

I married (2nd) time in my 60’s, now 77,My children/ grandchildren ask for the usual sitting with the grandchildren, dogs , lift here and there and various demands that life throws at them.My husband moans and gets tetchy, my miserable childhood makes me determined to love and support them.My husband has never had children so I feel this could be a factor.I try to explain we come as a package and I’m proud of them all.Its making me feel so depressed, I talk to him but I don’t think he understands how I feel.Its like me, them and him! Any ideas how to handle this situation , thankyou

If you are fit and well keep loving and supporting your kids and grandkids. Please don’t let your husband control you. As long as you are not being over run with tasks from your kids and have time for yourself.

When you say the usual sitting, plus lifts, dogs and other demands, is this every day? Are you able to have clear days where you can do things with your DH?

Thank you both for your replies.On another thread someone said the children/grandchildren didn’t ask to be in this blended family and it’s up to us “Adults”to act accordingly, this really struck home