I'm currently in the early stages of divorce. My ex husbands has been estranged from his parents for a number of years due to his mothers erratic and violent behaviour. My son hasn't seen his grandparents since he was a year old and my ex husband underwent counselling to deal with his difficult childhood and his relationship with his mother. I have witnessed her behaviour and have seen injuries the she had inflicted on her husband. Both my ex and his older brother have spoken at length about the emotional and, in his brothers case, physical abuse they suffered as children and I won't have my son but in danger.
In the last couple of months my ex has reconciled with his parents. He took my son to visit them without my permission. On the second visit he left my son there over night (he was supposed to be staying with my ex as it had been planned that he would spend the weekend celebrating and early Christmas with him) and returned to his girlfriends house. My son became distressed and wet the bed.
Since then, my ex has sent his mother to collect my child from school and he has spent afternoons with her that he was meant to spend with his father. I'm not sure where his father is as he won't tell my but I'm assuming he is working.
At the moment my ex won't have his son past 7pm in the evenings. He lives with his new partner in her home. I have never prevented my ex from having his son overnight, he just refuses to have him. He isn't great at sticking to agreed collection times as it is and has missed multiple visits.
My question is, given his mothers history of violence and erratic behaviour, can I legally stop my son from being left alone with her? I've asked my ex not to leave him alone with her and he has refused stating that he wouldn't put his son in danger.