Does your primary aged child enjoy going between two houses for contact in the week?

[Crackers0987]

DD has recently started midweek overnight contact with her Dad. In my view its completely impractical as he lives miles away and she's now having to get up much earlier, goes to bed later the night before as he's so disorganised but my view is insignificant as the Court agreed it.

She enjoyed the after school contact where he picked her up from school and did a few hours and returned to me but now it's overnight she's struggling.

How can I make it better for her, I support her as best as I can by being positive, packing clean uniform for her, packing her favourite teddies for bedtime.. she hates going to school with a back pack of stuff.

Due back in Court later in the year so will put a case forward that midweek overnight is disruptive as well as impractical and that this should be an after school midweek pick up with a few hours of contact but I'm struggling with how to make it better for her.

My daughter is older than primary age now but the other day she was telling me how much she hated the backwards and forwards

The courts don't care though. I left their dad because he was abusive, they didn't even care about that

Is she old enough to be listened to by the Court?

2 primary aged DC (9 and nearly 5) and they both hate it. My eldest is clinging onto the fact that when she gets to high school she'll have more freedom and will be able to choose but the youngest cries at any mention of going despite it being part of his routine for over 2 years....

It's the worst feeling knowing that the disruption and upset isn't something I can fix but lost of love, understanding and a accepting that they're very clingy when they come home the next day is the best I can do for now.

It's also an agreement between us rather than court ordered. In theory I could stop it but I know if I do he'll take me for 50/50 and that's really not in the kids best interests.

So yeah, no advice really but solidarity.

Due back in Court later in the year so will put a case forward that midweek overnight is disruptive as well as impractical and that this should be an after school midweek pick up with a few hours of contact
Are they going to swap more hours for less though?