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Room sharing - do or don’t?

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AlltheQs · 19/01/2025 09:16

We are in a very fortunate position that we have enough space for our 5yo DD and 3yo DS to have their own room, but they both ask a lot about sleeping together and the eldest will occasionally cry at night about not wanting to be on her own (this maybe happens once-twice/month).

at the minute they both sleep through the night but my eldest wakes around 530/6 and plays in their room until the clock shows 7, whereas my youngest usually sleeps until closer to 7.
my eldest also is spooked by the dark and uses a (quite bright) night light but my youngest likes the dark.
i think if they were sharing the night light would either not be needed or else we could get a dimmer one.i guess my concerns are the likely sleep disruption and then probably conflicts with sharing a room too. But I know there are meant to be a lot of benefits and they are both quite keen.

Anyone have any advice or similar situations that have gone well? I had wondered even about “weekend sleepovers” rather than a permanent sharing situation.

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Seeline · 19/01/2025 13:19

So they currently have their own rooms and want to share?
Seems strange.
I had to share a room with my sister until we moved when I was 9 and she was 7. Hated it.

Particularly when I was a little bit older - I couldn't read in bed because it kept her awake.
I couldn't get up when I woke unless she was awake.
I had to go to bed at the same time despite being 2 years older.

AlltheQs · 19/01/2025 18:43

@Seeline maybe it seems strange because it’s the opposite of what you’re used to? I think if I’d been in your situation I would hate it to, but they’ve never shared a room so love the idea of it, and I’m acutely aware that I have only a small timeframe left in which they could before my eldest gets too old and need their space again - the only reason I’m really querying it tbh.
thanks for your thoughts though!

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EmpressaurusKitty · 19/01/2025 20:32

I always hated the idea of sharing with my sister, & was very jealous that when we went on holiday we were together & our brother had his own room.

Having said that, she & I go on holiday together & share voluntarily now!

If they’re keen, maybe try the sleepovers & see how it goes?

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