Should I persevere or give up and cosleep with 3 yr old?

[TheCaretakerNadine]

Ds1 is 3 next month and has slept independently in his room for the last 9 months. He'd put himself to sleep after lights out at bedtime and would wake between 0-2 times overnight, and self settle after being offered water. He doesnt nap in the day

I dont know whats gotten into him in the last fortnight. He delays bedtime and cries so Ive resorted to the 'mum needs to tidy up downstairs so ill check on you in 5 mins' , which works. But it doesnt work for the overnight wakes.

We put a new night light in his room too.

We have Ds2 who is 1yrs of age, who cosleeps with dh and me. Mat leave is over next week and I shudder to think how on earth we will all function.

Ds2 has been up since 5am (slept at 8pm) and every 10 mins that ive gone in, hes awake!! Im tempted to cosleep but Im torn as he definitely has potential to sleep better, as he demonstrated....and i don't wanna create a bad habit......

My 10 year old still co sleeps with me, many people will judge but it’s just to do with the extent of her needs.

My other child likes complete darkness, doors shut and silence.

Co sleeper needs a night light, cuddles and hand holding.

Luckily 😬 I am single and don’t mind it. Before anyone jumps of this post, I have tried everything to get her to sleep by herself!

I gave in 😊 whatever gets the most sleep I say, and 3 is still so little!

I'd persevere and have him in his own bed. I'd rather lose some sleep for a while now working on getting him to stay in his bed, than lose sleep for potentially years with a toddler in my bed. A lot of parenting is short term pain for long term gain.

My bed is for me and my husband, except for mornings when my 3 year old leaps in with us for lovely morning cuddles.

Everyone will have a different opinion on this. You have to do what's right for you in the long run.

I would just get into my boys bed when he woke in the night and left when he was asleep or just stayed if I fell asleep. Just go with it, he needs you right now.

We co-sleep. I have Asian relatives who said do it the Asian way which is that they co- sleep then go to own beds when ready. DS at 3, DD longer, but we all got a good nights sleep. Not sure if this is at all typical of Asian parenting but it worked for us.

Thanks for your reply guys

I think cosleeping with a toddler also depends on how they sleep. My toddler sprawls out and fidgets so much that I hardly get any sleep. So i think im gonna perservere for 3 weeks and if no improvement, co sleep somehow

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Always makes me feel less alone that there are other people with children like this. Ours is nearly 3; sleeps in own room but has to be supported to sleep at the start of the night, then 1-3 times during the night. We purposely got a 4foot bed for her so we can be in with her when needed rather than her coming in with us. But we’re desperate for her to start sleeping through!

With my 4 we put a cot mattress on the floor next to the bed. They all grow out if it eventually.