If your mum or dad or both were "shouters", how...

[emkana]

... did it make you feel? How has it influenced the way you raise your children? And did they shout "just" due to temper, "just" being noisy, or did they say hurtful things when shouting? And does it make a difference?

I think there is a huge difference between shouting and name calling/insulting.
I shout all the time at my kids, but I wouldn't dream of calling them names or being insulting to them. The shouting is mostly a product of ds being on another planet and shouting is the only way to bring him back to this one and dd never stopping talking so it's the only way to get heard over her voice.
The shouting might take the form of me at top of stairs and kids somewhere downstairs and me shouting..."Who forgot to do their morning chores?" (ie make their bed and open their curtains) Occasionally I might yell at them for misbehaving...ie "Why did you hit your brother/sister?"

Funnily enough, the other evening I decided to take a different tact...the kids were squablling at the dinner table and I said very quietly and calmly..."It really makes me sad and makes me feel like I'm a terrible mother when you two fight." They both promptly burst into tears and spent the next 1/2 hour apologizing to me. I felt like crap and resolved to stick to shouting in the future.

Lol sofia

LOL here too! We can't win really can we?!

my mum was a shouter, my dad not
no long term damage from shouting

for a long time had the tenderest thoughts of my Dad

but now I understand my mother and how frustrated she was as a supremely bright woman giving up her life outside the house

if it's only shouting, it would have stayed with me, but they were tempered by the loving moments, and now that I understand her better, they are the ones that stand out in my memory

I do shout, not too much and usually only after something I've said three times in normal tones has been ignored, but I do find I have to pull myself (and DH) up from time to time because it's getting too often. Then I make a concerted effort to find other ways round things and I shout much less for a time.
The one thing I try so hard not to do is sulk. My mother used to sulk for days on end - and usually only at me, never my brother - and it used to make me so nervous I would have upset stomach. AFter a few days I would pluck up the courage to force her to tell me what it was all about - and it was always so petty that I could never believe it. To this day I am really careful what I say to her.
My dad did use to shout and I know I have that tendency after him, and when my parents split up it really was blissfully quiet in the house!!
I make sure that in our house if I shout I always explain why afterwards (e.g. I said it 3 times already and everyone ignored me) and I make sure I can find something unrelated to praise/laugh about very quickly afterwards to right things again.
I never hardly ever swear in front of my kids (except occasionally when driving...)