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help she refuses point blank to wear big girl pants "i'm a baby " please help me

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rowe · 05/05/2008 19:57

Hi my dd2 is 32 mths, and screems the house down if i even uter the words "potty , toilet ,pants" enything to do with toilet training . We have tried before when she was 25 mths but thought she was too young . Now just really tiering ! My ds1 was a breeze one week and dry day and night at two . Any sugestions !!!

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CarGirl · 05/05/2008 20:00

Hmmm does she like pre-school? Perhaps insist that she needs to wear big girl pants to go there, that incentive worked with two of mine.

Have you any idea why she wants to wear nappies (have you tried washables), what happens if you don't put one on but don't put knickers on?

Ecmo · 05/05/2008 20:06

I would leave it for now. It will be much easier when she is ready. It will just stress both of you out at the moment

WigWamBam · 05/05/2008 20:12

I agree with Ecmo - no point trying if she's not happy with the idea.

Give her a bit more time; you would be surprised how quickly things change.

It might be worth dropping some subtle comments into conversation with her about how grown up she is getting and the things she can do now which she couldn't when she was a baby - try and gently steer the mindset from "I'm a baby". Try not to refer to her as the baby either.

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rowe · 05/05/2008 20:16

she just screems and throws things at me and pulls all the nappies out of the bag we calm her down and try to explian that she needs to wear big girls (she at the collage nursry 1 day a week )but she is insistant she is a baby and needs them a nappy on . she insn't the baby and loves her brother dearly has never shown any jealousy before .want her out of nappies soon she sufers from exema and has a really sore bum most of the time .

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My2Weegirls · 05/05/2008 20:18

hi - agree maybe she's still not ready yet. is she showing all the signs (e.g. knows when doing a pee,poo, wants nappy changed, shouts loudly at soft play when there's a lull in the music so everyone hears 'mummy i've done a stinky poo in my nappy' etc)

have you been reading books about potty training with her? we had a couple of books with dd1 and read them in advance of potty training. one of them was a dora book - and dd1 just loves dora!

also taking her shopping to buy big girls pants - letting her choose them?

Ecmo · 05/05/2008 20:18

She might change her mind when she sees other children in pants at nursery. But really you are fighting a losing battle if she's not ready. Leave the potty out but otherwise wait for her to show some sign that she wants to try.

CarGirl · 05/05/2008 20:20

perhaps she is anxious about giving up her last bit of babyhood. I would leave it all together but perhaps in this lovely weather leave her nappy free and see what happens (do not put pants on and if she says anything just say it's too hot for nappies and it will stop your bottom being so sore)

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rowe · 05/05/2008 20:30

thanx think i will wait for the nicer weather good thinking have been trying all weekend am so streesed .

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rowe · 05/05/2008 20:31

will try the books any sujestions

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NotABanana · 05/05/2008 20:36

It has become an issue for your DD so my advice would be to leave it and forget all about it for a while.

CarGirl · 05/05/2008 20:44

Absolutely leave it for a while then, perhaps do some stories with her about her always being your "baby" even when she is grown up with children of her own etc. I did have a friend whose dd refused to give up her pampers until her 3rd birthday but they were cool about so it was fine.

WigWamBam · 06/05/2008 09:07

Unless you want it to become a bigger issue than it already is, you really do have to leave it. The more you try to force her into something she isn't ready for, the worse problems you will make for yourself and for her.

She may well be physically ready - but she has to be emotionally ready, too. And she isn't.

berolina · 06/05/2008 09:10

You really have to leave it; she's not ready and she knows it, and is articulating that as best she can. ds1 is 3 next week and we still haven't started - beyond having the potty around, talking about going to the loo and encouraging him to notice when he feels he wants to go. Yesterday he went to the potty and did a wee in it for the first time It will happen when she is ready. Your ds was obviously ready early (unusually so IMO).

berolina · 06/05/2008 09:11

(We are planning to 'train' ds1 in August, btw, when we will be staying for a while with relatives with a garden - we don't have one - and letting him run around nappy-free)

Anna8888 · 06/05/2008 09:14

Relax, as others have said. Give her a bit more time to think herself into pants/potties/loos. Talk about it all often, but no pressure.

Wheelybug · 06/05/2008 09:15

DD wa slike this. I tried potty training at 2.5. She could hold it for hours, knew when she about to go but refused point blank to sit on potty/toilet. Also said similar things 'I'm a baby not a big girl'.

I stopped and every now and then asked if she wanted to try it. At 2 yrs 10 months she said yes and did it overnight - I think we've only ever had 1 accident and that was in the first day. She was dry at night too.

So, I woudl say just leave it, keep talking about it, reading books about it and eventually she'll decide when she's ready and then it will be a doddle.

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rowe · 07/05/2008 19:15

O M G thought i was imagineing it today she didnt go from 9 till 1 then her nappy after her nap was at her knees was going to leave it but she didnt want a nappy on this morning thought it was too good to be true lol o well will give it a few weeks

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My2Weegirls · 07/05/2008 20:37

my dd loved this book

" big girls potty book" and learned the rhyme off by heart.

" dora" this was her favourite as there is a button you can press and it makes a flushing sound

RubyRioja · 07/05/2008 20:40

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