3rd baby

[Poppys24]

just need to rant somewhere and see if anyone is the same as me ?! I have 2 boys, 3 year old and just turned 1 year old. Everytime it gets to ovulation i think a 3rd child is a really good idea. 3 little besties, having a newborn again ans the possibility of a girl makes me sob !!! Then it gets to my period coming and I get SO NERVOUS thinking how silly I was to think 3 is a good idea. I'd need a new car and life would be soooo much harder, we wouldn't be able to afford nice holidays anymore ! Then my period comes and I don't feel relieved I cry and feel upset. Then the same happens next month. Im in this cycle and driving myself insane. Is there anyone out there like me ?! Or am I stupid ?! Hahaa

I get you. It’s the hormones!!
you need to decide once and for all if you would like a third and then stick to that plan even if you are ovulating and decided no - use contraception etc.
I have been on the fence about a third for about 6 months now but because we are undecided we haven’t risked anything.
once you have decided it might give you some relief and be able to ignore the hormones either way. What does you DH/partner think about a third?

He said if it happens it happens but deep down he doesn't want a 3rd because he wants to give the 2 we have a good life and money wise a 3rd would mean less of the nice things that cost money! It's so tough isn't it 😫
We haven't been using protection 😬

It's just hormones, don't do it, 2 are enough and they need more as they get older.

Been there. Now have four daughters 🤣 grateful and glad though. But yes it changes things...

So your advice is don't ?! 😂😫 I'd love a daughter but the the reality of 3 boys is like 🤯

Not at all. I'm happy as Larry and love having all girls but only go for it if you would be just as happy with all boys 😄

Financially it is harder with cars, childcare and holidays but that is temporary. I do feel it's all worth it. Good luck 🍀

I definitely think the same, one of the reasons we are unsure is finances. You are playing with fire not using protection though 🤣

Definitely think about how you would feel if you had a third boy. I am opposite I have 2 girls. I know someone who tried for a boy after 2 girls and got twin girls 😅

For fucks sake. If you do not want a baby you have a 50% chance of getting, don't have a baby. Worst case, you'll get a girl and be a horrible mum to your middle and probably your oldest too. Best case you get another boy you don't want and you'll be a worse mum to all 3.

I know I sound harsh. I'm not going to enable you in such monumentally shitty behaviour.

You definitely still can have nice holidays with three 😉

Cough cough

GO FOR IT 😜

Finances/holidays are a small consideration in the grand scheme of life. Picture your dining table fifteen years from now. Who do you want sitting round it?

More practically, make a pros and cons list on paper. It really helps to see it in black and white. Include emotional, financial, practical reasons. And consider other factors like the state of your marriage, local family help, careers, what if dc3 is disabled or one of your existing DC becomes disabled, and so on.

Ok so I 100% will never be a shitty mum but thanks for your awful comment

I love this comment thankyou for your response! I'd love a full house in 15 years time !!! Its just i have to get to 15 years time 😅