Do you think that

[WinkyWinkola]

If the arrival of a new baby makes a new mum feel she's lost control of her life, she mourns her old life, she feels inadequate and anxious about her parenting abilities, has the new mum got PND or is this just the usual scenario for a new mum?

Impossible to answer I think, she would need to seak to HV or GP.

I would say usual. And usual to feel like you've been in a car crash too. And my kids are all far from babies and I'm still doubting my parenting abilities!

I felt like that! I don't think I had PND - scored high on those test thingies but think it was because I was brutally honest ie/ "do you cry a lot".....most definitely, I am exhausted and feel out of control and 4am is a lonely time - a good blub sorts it out; "do you feel anxious?" .......good grief of course I do - there is a teeny tiny new person who I have to take care of and I've never done it before

Is it you winky?

No, not me. I'm doing a presentation on PND and just wondered about symptoms. To me, the ones I've listed seem normal. To some texts I'm referring to, they are listed as signs of possible PND.

I'd say PND definitely, I'd be very worried if all Mums had all those symptoms.

I definitely felt inadequate and anxious about my parenting abilities (sometimes still do 5 yrs later!).
But was so enamoured with DS and into being a mummy that didn't mourn my old life.

There's a big difference between occasionally missing the freedom of pre-children to 'mourning' your old life so, like KaSo, I would be worried if all mothers felt like that.