Hi, I really need some advice. I have a 6 year old DD whom I share with my ex. He's a good Dad but since our split in 2020 he still lives with his parents in a 2 bed flat and shares a bedroom and bed with our DD he has a good paid job, but is a big mummies boy she still cooks cleans makes his pack up etc.(none of my business) the last year my DD has started changing wanting to sleep with me in my bed waking up in the night toget in my bed. When she's with her dad she's a completely different child. She's like a baby. He's absolutely pathetic with her, he will never say no. I invited him to her birthday party and she just sat with her dad and didn't play with her friends. When she's invited to parties on his weekends the parents tell me she plays for 2 mins then rushes back for her dad. I'm completely different I will say no to her and at parties etc she goes off and plays and she never bats an eyelid to where I am she's off enjoying herself. He has always wanted to home school her and says school is pointless. If school ask us to download an app he will research it saying they are getting our child's data etc. I have a new partner who's been in my DD life since she was 4 they are the best of friends. But when on holiday she said she can't hug him because Daddy told her not to. To me anyone who loves a child and is a good positive influence is a good thing. My DD will say Daddy won't get a girlfriend because he just wants me. He did tell me that he wouldn't get one because DD is his priority and no one will spoil his relationship with her. She came out with daddy was your fella mummy till you dumped him.. She tells me things daddy has said that she wouldn't know, she was one since we split..
He's told DD when he retires in 4 years he can have her when he wants and she can go whenever she wants. We have a court order in place because he wouldn't agree to anything or do mediation with me. I lost my mum when I was pregnant with my DD things like this I would of talked to her about.
My partner and I have taken my DD to Disneyland, lapland and lots of other places.. My ex said it wasn't fair he wanted to take her.. I told him then do so.. Life is short and she can have memories with both parents at the same places.
I just feel sad and wanted toget this off my chest..
I might be thinking too much or just hurt.. I know it's not a competition she would pick her dad over me.. Just kinda hurts abit.. I guess this is what happens when you split you can't control the other side.