Grandparent saying DS seems nervous

[Elizo]

I’m not sure if I’m being ridiculous so need perspective. DF who I see infrequently, twice a year, was saying how lucky I am with my DC etc but then said worried how he will get on at uni as ‘seems, not lacking confidence, but nervous’. DC prob not that comfortable with DF (he can be a bit overbearing and DC has never spent much time with him). DC is not overly confident adults he doesn’t know well, but has a great group of friends, always been popular and seems confident with his group. Also no problem making friends. It annoyed me DF made this assertion. I said something about how he would be fine as no problem making friends etc. Would this bother you??

I suspect deep down you know DF may have a point. Otherwise why would you care? University is very different these days and you no longer need to be a social butterfly to fit in and be happy.

You said he's not overconfident with adults he doesn't know - isn't that the same as nervous? It's normal to be nervous sometimes - especially when starting uni! I'm sure he will be absolutely fine though, he sounds great. I would just roll your eyes and try not to overthink it.

Thanks both. He is also currently year 11 so not sure why DF is thinking almost 3 years ahead 🤷🏻‍♀️

Being comfortable around peers and other 'proper' adults is two separate things.

Will he happily go to Admissions or Student Services etc and talk to an unknown adult if he needs something? If not your DF has a point.