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Ds does all his wee's in potty ot toilet but not poo's. So stressed can anyone help?

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buttercupbabe · 05/05/2008 13:54

Hi I'm really hoping that someone will have some advice for me. I started potty training ds 2.10 about 8 weeks ago. He's been brilliant at weeing and we haven't had an accident for weeks.
The poo has been a much more difficult situation. He's always been reluctant to do it in the potty or toilet, but after introducing a star chart he started to tell me when he needed to go. It was always a bit hit and miss but I felt we we're nearly there.
We then had 2 long weekends away which seem to have thrown him off course altogether. Now he absolutely refuses to go on the potty or toilet to poo despite all our encouragement and use of star charts. For the last 2 weeks he tends to not poo for 3 days in a row and then gets himself so uncomfortable and then ends up pooing his pants.
I feel at the end of my tether and I got so cross with him this morning when he did 3 days worth of poo in his pants that I shouted (which I know is not going to help). I just don't know what to do.
Has anyone else had a similar situation? Do you think he's just not ready to be poo trained as it we're? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Anna8888 · 05/05/2008 13:58

Will he poo in a nappy? Lots of children manage to wee in the loo but want a nappy to poo in for a few months longer.

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buttercupbabe · 05/05/2008 14:00

Yes he'll poo in a nappy. I just don't want him to go back to weeing in a nappy. Thanks for the speedy response

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Anna8888 · 05/05/2008 14:02

Keep him in pants. Tell him that he should ask you for a nappy when he wants to poo - then whip it on, let him poo, and whip it off again and put his pants back on.

Lots of children need this transition phase.

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francagoestohollywood · 05/05/2008 14:09

Buttercup, ds stopped wearing a nappy at roughly 2 and a half yr (one day he just decided he didn't want one anymore, not even at night), but insisted on wearing one just for poos for another 8 months .....

milou2 · 05/05/2008 14:35

DS2 needed the nappies just for poos as Anna8888 says. It all worked out fine in the end.

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buttercupbabe · 05/05/2008 14:41

Girls thank you! I'm feeling much better about it all. I don't think my pregnancy hormones are helping either tbh!

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mellyonion · 05/05/2008 19:38

hi. my ds was potty trained day and night at just over 2 1/2, but WOULD NOT poo anywhere other than in a nappy until he was about 4!

i used to buy really cheap value nappies...he'd only have them on for a few minutes until the deed was done! lol

really, don't worry....its quite normal.
x

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buttercupbabe · 07/05/2008 11:10

Thanks. It's reassuring to know I'm not the only one with a reluctant pooer!

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RustyBear · 07/05/2008 11:15

DS was like this too - he used to ask for his nappy to be taken off so he could go to the toilet , but then he'd just do a wee & ask for the nappy back on 'so I can do a poo'

He was still in nappies when he went to playgroup & one day he did a poo & the staff just put him in pants for the rest of the morning - when I picked him up they said they were happy to have him in pants & cope with any consequences & he never wore a daytime nappy again.

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buttercupbabe · 08/05/2008 12:24

Thanks Rustybear - see you in the staffroom.xx

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babyinarms · 08/05/2008 14:27

Very interesting cos my DS 3.5 Will pee fine in toilet with 5 months but refuses to poo in toilet or potty. He asks for nappies all the time. Have tried...... your a big boy now searios, bribery, rewards , star charts and the gently gently approach with no luck!
I just think 5 months is a long time, should i be pushing him more or will he do it in his own good time?
Reassuring to hear others in same boat!

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buttercupbabe · 08/05/2008 18:31

I agree babyinarms, it is good to know that there are others out there.
I am currently on cloud 9 as ds did a poo on the potty for my mil while I was at work and then did 3 on the potty (he actually said look it's a mummy, a daddy and a baby!) when we returned home. probably tomorrow he'll go back to his old ways, but for now I'm happy.

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RustyBear · 08/05/2008 19:25

Love the Poo family!

babyinarms · 08/05/2008 21:28

Buttercup that sounds like great progress...what i wouldn't give for a poo family...LOL!!

mybabywakesupsinging · 09/05/2008 01:54

babyinarms it took ds1 8 months to decide it was OK to poo in the toilet. He just used to poo in his pants. And it was definitely his decision- nothing we did helped. He still backtracks sometimes now 2 months further on but overall things are much better.
He's still hopeless with wees though.

seeker · 09/05/2008 05:48

My ds would only poo in a nappy for ages after he was fine with pees on a potty of the loo or a convenient bush! It'll happen - don't worry!

suzi2 · 09/05/2008 21:20

My DS is like this. He has been wee trained for a couple of months but still poos in a nappy. He is like clockwork. Nappy goes on at 6pm, he hides in cupboard, then lies down on mat to be changed. I've tried being a bit pushy about the potty (or toilet, though he's not a fan of the toilet) but he is just terrified and will hold it in. He's had a couple of accidents in his pants - one was yesterday, just heard him screaming and crying that a poo was coming in his pants. He was hysterical. Tried to make the best of the situation and sneak half the poo down the loo as I sat him on it. And have convinced him that he did a bit of a poo on the loo...

Anyway, just wondering for those that overcame this problem, how did it happen? Did they just tur round one day and choose to poo on the toilet? Or did you do months of gentle persuasion?

2happyboys · 28/05/2008 20:44

Hi everyone. Realise I'm joining this quite late but I'm in similar situation. My boy is 4 and after over 1 year (yes 1 year...!) of trials and tribulations, he is finally weeing in the toilet. He point blank refuses to poo on the toilet & I know he is genuinely worried / frightened (as he was about weeing). He is very articulate normally but will not tell me what he's scared of.
At the mo he saves his poos for night time nappy but in the past has managed to hold on for over 1 week with constipation problems (don't ask). Feel like he's made so much progress with wees, just want to get poos sorted too. Don't know whether to force it or wait. Problem with waiting is that I can't see that he's ever going to turn around one day and decide to go on loo. But then again it isn't affecting him in the day time (so no problems with starting school), so maybe I just have to leave it up to him? He tells me he'll start doing it when he's 10!!

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