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Stepsons mum has a new partner

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Hsolley0904 · 11/01/2025 22:34

My stepsons mum has a new partner. Obviously this has nothing to do with me usually (she doesn’t speak to me, we’ve never met), however he is a drug dealer and he smokes in the house. His mum is weirdly open about it and has told my partner very openly that this is occurring. We are stuck as to what to do. If we tell social services she’ll probably get kicked out because her partner is not meant to be living there anyway and then my stepson will have nowhere to live with his mum. We have him Friday through until Sunday and he spends the rest with his mum. They live an hour away from us but we collect him and drop him off.

What would everyone else do in this situation?
Im writing this on behalf of my partner also, so I’m not interested to hear that this is not my issue as he is my stepson. He is my son to me.

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cestlavielife · 11/01/2025 22:42

If the child is at risk, his dad should step up and step in
If that means full-time with dad, so be it.
Dad should speak to school safeguarding lead for advice and referral
Do you think the child is at risk of neglect or abuse by being in a house with this drug dealer?

Hsolley0904 · 11/01/2025 22:49

cestlavielife · 11/01/2025 22:42

If the child is at risk, his dad should step up and step in
If that means full-time with dad, so be it.
Dad should speak to school safeguarding lead for advice and referral
Do you think the child is at risk of neglect or abuse by being in a house with this drug dealer?

Edited

We’ve spoken to his grandparents (on his mums side) as they live near them. As we live over an hour away it’s not as simple as taking him as that requires a new school etc, although it’s definitely not off the cards.
as for the abuse and neglect, it’s a constant concern, but have nothing to back it up.

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zazazoop · 13/01/2025 07:53

Well you can't leave him in a house with a drug dealer, who does drugs in the house that's obvious and you shouldn't need the internet to tell you that. It's an unsafe, unsuitable environment and if the parent can't see that you have to speak to school and other agencies immediately. This is a clear red line, your stepson obviously needs his family to protect him. Perhaps he can stay with grandparents short term so he can be by school? Or maybe he needs to stay with you? He can't stay there.

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