Advice Needed On Co-Parenting

[ThisMintWasp]

Need some advice please!!!

My ex and I share a 3 year old, there's been multiple times when he has changed the routine a little bit due to personal things, that's always been okay as long as enough prewarning ect.
There's been a few occasions when I've agreed on the basis that he has her early the next morning due to me having plans as obviously my weekend without her ect. He's not woken up on time a couple of times but he had another person living with him at the time so it wasn't an issue as contacted them instead.

This morning went to drop off again we were stood outside in the cold for 40 mins with no sign tried ringing doorbell and him God knows how many times with our daughter sobbing on the doorstep asking why daddy isn't awake and doesn't want to see her.

Obviously I'm heartbroken for her and don't want this to carry on but with her about to go school in Sept I don't know how I'm meant to trust him to get her there in time. Is there any way I can stop this from happening legally or is it just a put up with it and watch her be upset constantly if an early drop off?

TIA x

Why are you taking her to his house?
it should be up to him to collect her. At that age I never told my son his dad was coming until I got a text that he was on his way as there were too many times he cancelled and my son was disappointed.

If he can’t be consistent then it’s ultimatum time- child will be ready for you at x time - if you aren’t coming then let me know and we’ll change the schedule.

We always do it so I do drop off to his and then he returns to me, just thought it was easier then arguing with him about it as he always gets a taxi and will say it's too expensive (even though he could most definitely walk). Am I in the wrong for this?

I work full time and don't drive so either have to walk / get a taxi to him, he works occassionaly based on Child Maintenance reporting he earns less then taxable amount. If I pull the card of you have to come get her could I get in trouble for this, I have always been so cautious of the way to broach all of this incase for whatever reason it should end up in court 😅