Irresponsible?!

[AnxiousAnnie44]

So, we’ve just returned from a holiday of a lifetime to the USA. We used UBER etc to get around which was all fine, however a situation occurred whilst over there & I cannot help but feel resentful towards my husband for it. We ordered an UBER to take both of us and our two children for a day out which was about an hours drive away. We got there safely no problem & the driver who couldn’t speak English explained (google translate) that he would also collect us once we’d finished our day. Now this wasn’t through the app like the original journey & I was dubious about this, however my husband got his number and throughout the day they WhatsApped. However a fee wasn’t discussed. At the end of the day the driver was there waiting (obviously cash in hand job) & he got us safely back to the hotel. However I feel resentful towards my husband that he could have put us in massive danger. I have spoken about this to him but just cannot get over it. Am I being unreasonable? X

To be honest I think you are as this is pretty standard kind of set up. I’ve done similar going to space Kennedy etc and as I knew they were a licences uber I didn’t see it as a risk.

I think YABU

so the uber driver was ok to take you to where you were going.... but not ok to arrange a bit of cash in hand work for on the way back?

i think you need to give your head a shake.

Thank you I just wanted to know other ppls opinions - it’s just that my two kids were in the car - I get massive anxiety now through perimenopause so the slightest things have me worry.

This is a non issue. Clearly vetted as he took you there. He didn’t flag him down in the street.

You’re still stressing about something that didn’t happen? Just admit you were wrong.

YABU. Unless something made you feel uncomfortable about the driver on the way there, then why would you have a problem with him taking you home? Sounds sensible from your husband to me tbh to arrange it all in advance and to keep in contact with the driver and it sounds like it all worked out fine!?

So the same driver who took you there also delivered you safely back? And you had a load of messages proving this? I'd be happy dh got it sorted tbh. If you were worried it's not hard to use Uber and you could have booked through the app but there's no way I'd be letting this taint my memories of a holiday of a lifetime.

Tell us about all the fun you had and challenge yourself to focus on that. Don't let your brain turn the trip into a negative experience when it must have been pretty incredible

I'm confused. Why was it dangerous?

If you weren't happy about why didn't you arrange an alternative ride back?

Where was the 'massive danger'?