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Second pregnancy fears

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Lolly123l · 04/01/2025 13:09

Hi, I’m just under six weeks with baby no2. I have a 6 year old son. I had a fear of pregnant and birth with my first and was booked for an elective section which massively reduced my fears with my first baby. My son ended up coming naturally and I didn’t have time for my section.

this time round I know I have to go through birth, I’m so worried.

I also have other waves of anxiety and questions like, what if I don’t like this baby?
Should I have waited longer to have another baby? what if I get bad PND?
what if the baby doesn’t fit in with us? what if things go wrong during pregnancy? how will my son cope not being my only baby? My partner also works off shore so I worry being by myself.

I really could be done with some reassurance from others who have felt similar feelings? thanks

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Mummyboy1 · 04/01/2025 13:23

I had similar fears with my second pregnancy.... And can happily say it was unfounded.
I was worried that my son wouldn't adapt, would hate having a baby around, but he's done so well. My labour was much better than my first.
I've just been very careful in not pushing the baby onto my first, and at first he didn't want the baby around but with 48 hours he was fine!
Honestly, I'm ashamed to say that in the beginning of my second pregnancy I was thinking of abortion. I also had tears and worries throughout this pregnancy... I'm so happy right now, baby is nearly 3 weeks old and it's working out well. I'm also a solo parent so fully understand the fears. However, even though my sons bed routine has changed a little bit, it still works and he's sleeping well.

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Lolly123l · 04/01/2025 13:35

Mummyboy1 · 04/01/2025 13:23

I had similar fears with my second pregnancy.... And can happily say it was unfounded.
I was worried that my son wouldn't adapt, would hate having a baby around, but he's done so well. My labour was much better than my first.
I've just been very careful in not pushing the baby onto my first, and at first he didn't want the baby around but with 48 hours he was fine!
Honestly, I'm ashamed to say that in the beginning of my second pregnancy I was thinking of abortion. I also had tears and worries throughout this pregnancy... I'm so happy right now, baby is nearly 3 weeks old and it's working out well. I'm also a solo parent so fully understand the fears. However, even though my sons bed routine has changed a little bit, it still works and he's sleeping well.

im so happy that things worked out for you, I’m quite an anxious person without having small human inside me! so I feel like is a typical reaction to life changing news for me, Although scary!

you have calmed my fears a great deal so thank you. I’m hoping my hormones are also to blame for how I’m feeling, I did think of abortion myself, but have always wanted at least 2 and I loved the baby stage so I’m hoping my anxiety is replaced by excitement soon.

Thanks for replying and congratulations on your little one

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Mummyboy1 · 04/01/2025 19:07

@Lolly123l feel free to message me if you'd like, I'm happy to talk through any fears x

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