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Please tell me it gets easier… young kids

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Safi123 · 31/12/2024 11:39

Hi,
looking for some positive stories and someone to tell me things will get easier. I have DD(4) will turn 5 January, DS(2) will turn 3 February and baby DS few months old. Things have been up and down since DD started reception and baby came home, things started to look a little better with routine etc but now I’m struggling with DS1 who up until the last few months has been such a chilled toddler, very kind and helpful etc he still is but has started tantrums over the smallest things and constantly pushing boundaries sometimes doesn’t want to listen or doesn’t do things unless he gets his way, it’s seems like this is getting more and more frequent. My DD is also having frequent times when she’s more whingy, doesn’t want to listen doesn’t want to do things for herself that I know she can and has done before. The worst is the constant bickering and fighting between the two. They were the really good at playing with each other and good friends up until few months ago(summer). I almost can’t wait to go back to work because of how much hard work it is. Almost at the end of Xmas holiday and honestly with the illness we just had and the tantrums, whinging etc I feel so exhausted.

I guess I’m just hoping people with kids who are older will tell me things get easier in the sense less tantrums, whinging, crying, screaming, they’ll be more independent etc.

Is there anything I can do to foster a better relationship again between the older 2 and how to manage these tantrums etcs?
any help would be appreciated

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ElatedBee · 01/01/2025 21:19

Just to say I could’ve written your post myself… hang in there! I also have three (6, just turned 3 and a few months) and I was also massively exhausting by Christmas. Hope it helps a little to know you’re not alone with the way you feel, it definitely helps me to know my kids are normal and lower my expectations of their behaviour. <3

Safi123 · 01/01/2025 21:35

ElatedBee · 01/01/2025 21:19

Just to say I could’ve written your post myself… hang in there! I also have three (6, just turned 3 and a few months) and I was also massively exhausting by Christmas. Hope it helps a little to know you’re not alone with the way you feel, it definitely helps me to know my kids are normal and lower my expectations of their behaviour. <3

Thanks for the encouragement, here’s to by next Xmas holidays things are bit easier for us both.

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Hercisback1 · 01/01/2025 21:37

By 7&4 life will be so different. You're in the worst of it now.

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Lavender1029 · 01/01/2025 21:59

Not advice but another person to tell you you’re not alone. I’ve got DD just turned 3 and DS 14 months. I feel guilty saying it but I’ve really struggled with maternity leave this time round due to finding the juggle of two so hard. I still find it hard now. I’ve just gone back to work but whilst off contemplated going back earlier just to have a break! Saw this thread and immediately clicked on it as your post resonates with me!

Safi123 · 01/01/2025 22:06

Lavender1029 · 01/01/2025 21:59

Not advice but another person to tell you you’re not alone. I’ve got DD just turned 3 and DS 14 months. I feel guilty saying it but I’ve really struggled with maternity leave this time round due to finding the juggle of two so hard. I still find it hard now. I’ve just gone back to work but whilst off contemplated going back earlier just to have a break! Saw this thread and immediately clicked on it as your post resonates with me!

Sorry you’re finding it hard still, I do remember few months down the line things got bit easier, when DD was 3.5 and DS1 18 months. I don’t know what it is about this mat leave in particular I'm finding exhausting, I did the mat leave when DD just turned 2 and DS1 was newborn with no nursery at the time, maybe just have forgotten the difficulties of that time and looking back through rose tinted glasses. I feel like this time should be easier since at least DD is in reception but maybe it’s the different needs to all 3 who are still so young!

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Hercisback1 · 01/01/2025 22:17

3 and 1 almost killed me. Work was a break.

5 and 2 was marginally better.

6 and 3 improved quite a bit.

7 and 4 was brilliant!

Safi123 · 01/01/2025 22:37

@Hercisback1 thank you so much, something to look forward to it

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