My 16 year old academics

[Lillibeth75]

My 16 year old failed her GCSEs and I have to put her in a private school and paying extra lesson teachers but I’m sick of her being very lazy not going to school sometimes and not logging on to her lessons.
im Tired of encouraging her and being gentle.
Will it be harsh if I cancel her extra lessons, pull her out of college and take to job Center to get a job I’m already struggling financially

What do your 16 yo want?

That’s extreme. I certainly wouldn’t be wasting money on a private school for someone who failed GCSEs and doesn’t work.

What does she want to do?

Oh and @Lillibeth75 you might get more responses if you ask MNHQ to move this over to the Teenagers Section

It doesn't sound like she's interested in what she's doing. I think it's extreme to pull her out and make her get a job - but maybe a vocational course at college with GCSE or functional maths and English would be more suitable for her. Did you know she was struggling at school before she took her exams? How did she do in her yr 10's/mocks? Does she have any SEN?
I think you need to look at all the different careers and jobs that are out there and get an idea of what might interest her.

Did this come as a complete surprise? Were there any concerns about her academic ability raised before this?

16 year-olds in the UK legally have to be in education or training, so I don't see how you can make her just get a job. Unless you're not in the UK.

That is true but not sure who would come to check?

They don't check as such but employers cannot employ someone aged 16 full time.

I think you need to sit down with her and talk to her about what her plans are going forward. Tell her that you won't be funding her forever, that you want to see her be able to enjoy her life, afford to replace her phone if she drops it or buy new clothes, or be able to travel even if it is just affording being able to travel to get to work.

Does she know how much jobs pay and how much a room in a house share costs? If she doesn't I suggest you sit down with her and find out. My children have known about this for years. They know that a mortgage is determined by your salary so saving a massive deposit is needed to be able to afford to move out.

They don't check as such but employers cannot employ someone aged 16 full time

That's true but they can do almost fulltime. DC2 was in college and working 30 hours a week at 16.

OP I would ask her what she wants to do. How many GCSES did she get and did it include Maths & English?

There’s no point paying for private school and tuition she’s not engaging with, particularly if that’s putting you into financial difficulties. Could you look at a college course instead - they can have up to 3 years funded before they are 19 so she could start again in September. If she didn’t pass maths and English she can retake GCSE or functional skills alongside a BTEC or similar.
What is her plan? We have been really clear with our kids that we’ll only support them as long as they are in full time education and after that they need to pay their way. 6 months working a NMW job might be exactly what she needs to grow up a bit and knuckle down to get some sort of qualifications next year.