Hi there, I'm just looking for a bit of advice. I'm a FTM to an 8 month old baby boy. He's the first grandchild on both sides of the family. My mum loves our baby a lot, which is great, but she's been very overbearing since he was born. She constantly finds faults with how me and my husband are raising our baby and compares what we're doing to what she used to do when me and my brother were little and always thinks that what she did was better. It's relentless. It makes me and my husband feel like bad parents. For instance, she doesn't like the idea of baby led weaning and kept talking about how purées are better - it seemed like she was trying to get me to give up on baby led weaning and do purées instead. When we visit her she kind of takes over with our baby and keeps telling me what to do. It can make me and my husband feel like she's the mother. She's also very overprotective and always wants to be near him following us around the house and trying to interact with him. She can't stand when he even makes a whimper - he's not a huge crier, but all babies cry sometimes.
I would talk to her about it, but I know she will get upset. We already said one little thing once and she got very upset about it. Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you handle it? Is it just a phase since DS is her first grandchild? Thanks.