Hi. I’m going through a really difficult divorce with an ex who has cheated, lied and has piles of hidden debts. He’s no longer living with us but has regular contact with the children. It’s really impacted my relationship with my three teenagers. They have gone from being close to me to really distant and unkind over night. I can’t do anything right and they read anything I say as criticism. Meanwhile the sun shines out of my husband. I’m trying not to compare as I know it’s not helpful but I’m so incredibly hurt by the way they behave towards me, which doesn’t help. I’m alone in the UK as I’m not originally from here so have no support to step in and help me out. I’m ashamed to say that I am starting to really dislike them at the moment. They do nothing to help out round the house except begrudgingly if asked. I have sat them down and talked to them about the need to pitch in a bit more as I can’t do it all by myself with no help. This has just meant they hide in their bedrooms more and avoid the common areas of the house. I genuinely don’t think I was as selfish as they are when I was growing up. I came from a big family too and we just accepted that being part of a family was everyone helping out. I’m tired, miserable and defeated by it right now. They complain a lot about things - eg yesterday they said it didn’t feel very Christmassy after I busted my a* all day long to make it Christmassy for them. I know they are only kids but it was my first Christmas without my husband too and it’s like they don’t care what that might feel like for me. I’m expected to just suck it up and worry about them and their feelings I never thought I’d feel dislike for my own children and I feel so sad that this is how I feel right now. I’m struggling not to burst in to tears a lot at the moment. Has anyone been through this and come out the other side with good relationships with their kids once again?